The ancients said: Filial piety comes first.
But then there is also a causal argument that "mothers are kind and filial piety".
When I was scrolling through my phone, I stumbled upon a bill of all the expenses that my parents spent on raising me.
There are about 110,000 bloggers in total, so it has attracted a lot of different opinions.
Some denounced it, thinking that she shouldn't be so total, and the kindness given to us by her parents can't be counted.
Some also think that if her parents are really good to her, how can she think of settling accounts with her parents.
Others are neutral, believing that they are not wearing other people's shoes, do not know other people's feelings, and should not judge others at will.
Actually, they are all right, because they all express their ideas based only on their own world. Some people stand in the light and think that the world is all light. Some people have seen the darkness and have a different view.
When I was a child, I thought that some elders were too indifferent to their parents. However, when I learned that their parents beat and scolded them when they were young, did not give them food or education, and when they grew up, they made all kinds of difficulties for his daughter-in-law whom he had finally married, and belittled his children in every way, I seemed to finally understand why he was so indifferent to the parents who gave birth to him.
In fact, in this society, there are still many parents who have children not because they love their children, they only have responsibility for their children, but have no love.
Outsiders look at the book and seem to be growing up well, but only they know how many twists and turns there are in it.
I actually understand this blogger who settles accounts with his parents, because although I haven't counted, why don't I have an account in my heart?
However, in this real society that advocates independent personality, there is a saying that we are not the prologue of our parents, nor their unfinished dreams, we are our own protagonists.
We have long passed the era of "parents' orders". It seems that our studies, careers, and marriages can no longer blindly obey our parents.
Everyone has a scale in their hearts, some people weigh it but remember it in their hearts, and some people weigh it to seek recognition and fulfill their moral sense in their hearts.