Hello, my name is Zhu Dabao!
Why do many young people not like to go home during the Chinese New Year, and they are reluctant to visit relatives and friends when they go home? I think there are two reasons.
First, they don't want to be a tool and be compared by their parents. Second, I can't help but compare myself with others.
Other people's children are married and have children, and you are still single, and your parents feel distressed; Someone else's career is more successful than your own, and you yourself feel frustrated. To put it bluntly, the reason why people suffer is that they always demand themselves by other people's living standards.
The Oscar-winning live-action short film "The Neighbor's Window" tells a story that compares to comparison. The protagonists are a middle-aged couple, their married life is trivial and uneventful, and after a long time, they begin to resentful of each other.
Through the window, they saw a young couple across the building, the husband always giving his wife flowers and hugs, and the wife was always smiling. Sometimes they would throw parties, drink and chat, sing and dance, and hug and kiss, which made them very envious. Especially the heroine, she gave birth to three children, she is busy with the children every day, she doesn't have a little time for herself, and sometimes she complains about a sentence or two, and her husband still doesn't understand.
In contrast, she felt more and more that her life was so miserable, so her temper became bigger and bigger, and her life became worse and worse. One day, she noticed that the man on the opposite floor had shaved his head and was lying in bed looking sick. Later, two men came, covered the man's head, and carried him away.
The heroine was blindfolded and followed downstairs, but she didn't expect the woman opposite to recognize herself. At this time, the female neighbor said to her: Unfortunately, my husband passed away, and we saw through the window that your family was very healthy, and we envied you for having three lovely children.
It turned out that after the man on the opposite floor learned that he had a terminal illness, the couple had been making their last days happier. The heroine suddenly realized that she was always looking up to and envying the happiness of others, but when she turned around, she found that she was being looked up to and envied by others.
Yes,Many times we only see what others have, we can't see what others lose, we only see our own misfortunes, and we can't see our own luck。This state is very similar to the state of our relatives and friends during the New Year. In the game of comparison, no one can really have a good year.
Please Answer 1988", there is such a clip between the heroine Deshan's parents that impresses me very deeply, the two of them go to the noodle restaurant to eat, Deshan's mother sees that a couple in the noodle restaurant is very affectionate, the husband has been serving vegetables to his wife, on the other hand, his husband only cares about eating with his head down, and he is not considerate to her at all, and the more he compares, the worse he is.
Before leaving, she saw a lot of umbrellas in the corner, and this time she didn't take her own, but wanted to take someone else's umbrella that looked better. She thought to herself that her husband couldn't be changed, so she accepted her fate, and the umbrella could always be changed to a good one, right?
But when she opened someone else's umbrella, she found that the umbrella that looked very high-end on the outside was actually a broken umbrella. The greatest misfortune in life is to base one's perception of happiness on comparison with others.
Happiness is actually a bowl of boiled water, you drink it every day, but you have been envious of the drinks in other people's hands, but those may not quench your thirst with boiled water. Everyone's life is bitter, and everyone's pot has ashes. There are a hundred kinds of red flowers, and people are also different
Today is the 30th year of the Chinese New Year's Eve, and I wish you all a happy holiday! At the same time, I also shouted to my parents and relatives in the air, and the family dialogue during the Chinese New Year can reduce expectations and comparisons. If three sentences are inseparable from money, four sentences are about getting married, five sentences are talking about saving, six sentences are sensible, and seven sentences are not easy to raise you, then no matter how much I understand you, I really want to escape.
The challenges facing our generation are different from those of your predecessors, and what we need more is to be loved and understood, rather than to be compared, please!
I don't compare myself to others, and I don't want to be compared. The world is very big, and it can accommodate countless roads and countless ways to live.