I was so embarrassed that the fridge was full of fruits and vegetables, which led to a heated argument with my daughter and I couldn't sleep all night.
My daughter asked me, "Can you think about it for me?" Aren't you worried that I'm going to have a mental problem? ”
How could I not be worried? How could I not think about her? She only sees herself, why can't she empathize and think about me?
I tossed and turned in bed all night, unable to sleep. I know it's useless to worry too much, but I just can't calm down.
A month ago, my mother and I came to Hainan and moved into the apartment that our daughter rented. My daughter has stayed here to work since she graduated, and she has adapted to and loved the environment and climate. She wanted me to stay here for the sake of keeping her company, and for enjoying the comfort of the tropical climate, freeing me from the harsh winter cold, and relieving some of my rheumatism and cardiovascular problems. I understand her filial piety and kindness, and I am very much looking forward to coming here soon.
However, my wife gave me a basin of cold water. She worries that young people living with us will have different living habits, consumption concepts and cognitive styles, and she is afraid that this will cause unhappiness and lead to regret.
I thought my wife was scaring me that we would have a conflict with our daughter, but how could it be? But the reality shocked me, and I actually lived under one roof only to find that there were many differences and disharmony between us.
Traditionally, my daughter likes to go to bed late and wake up late, and like to be quiet and orderly, while we are used to going to bed early and waking up early, eating on time, and like to relax in the evening, watch TV or watch Tik Tok. These differences in habits lead to conflict between us.
My daughter often doesn't wake up until noon, and sometimes she even misses breakfast outright. In order not to disturb her sleep, we had to talk carefully all morning like mutes.
Washing habits are also an issue. My daughter, as a night owl, likes to take a shower late at night, while we are used to bathing early in the evening and making sure our hair is thoroughly dry. We reminded her many times that sleeping with her hair dry can cause headaches, but she always ignored her. In addition, she also likes to drink iced drinks, whether milk, drinks or water, which are always chilled.
In addition, she is also extremely picky about food, and if the food is not to her taste, she will choose takeout, even if it is inconvenient for time, she still insists on ordering takeout. We can't help but ask, is takeaway more delicious than food made at home? Does she consider herself a rich person to spend as she pleases?
Moreover, her requirements for indoor drying also baffled us. She thinks that Hainan is humid and likes to be dry, so she insists that there should be no water on the floor of the toilet and that it must be dried immediately. What's even stranger is that she didn't allow us to open the windows for ventilation, which is really unbearable.
Although I couldn't understand her requests, in order to get along, I would sometimes quietly open the window to breathe in when she was not at home or asleep, and try to avoid conflict.
For those of us with limited retirement income, should we save money or should we save? Sometimes, even if she just bought some extra fruits and vegetables to fill the refrigerator, her daughter would be furious. She complained, "Why don't you always listen to my advice? Isn't it good to buy so many fresh ingredients every day? Do you have to fill the fridge? ”
Look at you, the refrigerator is almost full, and it is full of water, haven't you thought about wasting electricity bills? If I want to drink water, I have to find it for a long time, and if I want a yogurt, it's a toss! She angrily slammed the refrigerator shut and left in a huff.
I knew that overstuffing the fridge would cause water to stand, but I didn't expect her to be so angry about it. If the water overflows, it's good to wipe it, so why be so angry?
Every time I buy more ingredients, she nagged endlessly, and she didn't let go of the fruits she bought if she didn't eat them in time, always saying that she would buy them with consumption. But things are not something that can be bought if you want to, and it is also a toss to go grocery shopping every day, although it seems that there are many dishes, but you don't know what to buy every time.
If you don't experience family trivialities, you won't understand that life is not easy. I had to comfort her and explain to her, but she always thought that since I came to live with her, she was willing to feed me, and she was willing to take me out to play, so I should listen to her and do it her way, which didn't make sense. February** Dynamic Incentive Program
What should I do in this case? If two generations live in the same house and are still only with their daughter, if she gets married and still maintains this kind of thinking and attitude, will she continue to live together? She even mentioned that I would help her take care of the children after getting married in the future, but she always couldn't understand what I was doing, could I still take on such a responsibility?
When she was a child, I never felt like she was asking so much, but now that she's financially independent, has she become more picky? Could it be that I can't keep up with the times and shouldn't interfere in her life anymore?
I didn't dare to dig into it for fear that she would be confused. She is under a lot of work and life pressure, and for her generation, involution has become commonplace, and she has not fully adapted to it, which is something I should be thankful for.
But what should I do?