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A large number of unmarried people want to get married, but they do not meet a suitable partner, and it is difficult to get married for the time being. There are also some people who enjoy the single life very much, thinking that the single state is the most comfortable, and they hope to enjoy the happy life of being single for the rest of their lives.
Both of these ideas are good and have their own reasons, but they need to be fully investigated and prepared before making a choiceBiIn fact, this is a one-way channel, and after walking past, you can't turn around and come back to choose again, and when you want to adjust in the future, you can only make a choice that is far worse than that of the year.
How can you tell if a person really needs to get married?
The most important thing is not to make decisions only from the feelings of the moment, it will be very comfortable to fall in love or be single when you are young, but it is not comfortable to get married, marriage means that your freedom is limited, and you also need to bear certain family responsibilities.
Although the decision to marry is made at a young age, the benefit period is not when you were young.
In your twenties, you can hardly enjoy the benefits of family, you can order takeout for meals, you can use a washing machine for laundry, no children are much easier than having children, and health is not a matter of consideration, so being single or talking about a relationship with a little distance is the most comfortable and comfortable.
The problem is that the benefits of marriage are basically after a little older, and this definition lies in the fact that after the playfulness has faded, after the fox friends and dog friends who have made random friends have lost interest, all kinds of gatherings and all kinds of play can no longer bring the pleasure of youth, and the few friends at this time can only be found from home.
Your partner, children, and parents can all become friends, and you can become friends who talk about everything, you don't need to talk about three points, you don't need to worry about the other party calculating your interests, you can speak freely, you can find a sense of belonging, and you can have a sense of fall.
This kind of feeling cannot be provided by friends who are not interested in the community, no matter how good the relationship between friends outside is, it will never be pierced through a layer of window paper, and once there is a conflict of interest, the so-called friendship can immediately overturn.
The most important thing about getting married is to find a partner you can fully trust, someone who will treat you as a lifelong partner. Before you breathe or before the other person breathes, each other is the most trustworthy and trustworthy person.
As for after the breath, it doesn't matter, how to live more comfortably, you can't ask the other party to stay single for a lifetime after you breathe, and wash your face with tears all day long. That's anti-humanityEveryone has the right to be happy and happy, and no one should restrict the right of others to pursue their own happiness reasonably and legitimately. So if you are looking for a marriage partner, you should consider these factors first.
As for appearance, education, family background, etc., are secondary, especially appearance, which can hardly last for a few years.
Education and family background are far less important than ability, and ability is one of the most important factors.
The similarity or similarity of the three views is another key factor.
What marriage can bring in your 20s is not so important, but what it can bring in your 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s, and 80s is important.
In a marriage in your 20s, most of the pressure is on your parents, and the pressure after the age of 40 is basically on yourself. It's important that the family can motivate you and help you.
The example of Zhu Dan and Zhou Yiwei is very interesting, one of the most correct decisions Zhu Dan made in her life was to divorce her vampire ex-husband, and the equally important decision was to be with Zhou Yiwei, her huge debt of 16 million was repaid together with the help of Zhou Yiwei, and it was repaid together when she did not get a marriage certificate.
Zhu Dan's example tells people who want to get married that marriage is risky, it is possible to meet a scumbag, and it is possible to encounter a big burden, which will weigh on you and make you breathless, and squeeze your last bit of value.
Her example also shows people who want to get married, you can leave the scum on the front foot and meet a very good person on the back foot, a person who is willing to pull you with all his might when you are in the mire, and never give up, even if you risk falling into it yourself.
As for whether to get married, it does not depend on what you think when you are in your twenties, but on the mentality of the whole life, which is not only the impulsive years in your twenties, but also the period after the passion has subsided.
If you don't know what kind of mentality you will have at that time, then do more research, make more preparations, you can ask more about those lonely old people, ask more about the mentality of people in their forties who are not married, and ask ten or eight if it is not good, then ask thirty or fifty.
If you have a strong ability to substitute, then imagine for yourself how you would feel if you were 40, 50, 70 years old, and whether you need someone you trust to be with you.
In addition to psychological needs, it is more about economic conditions, whether your personal ability is enough to support you to live alone for a lifetime, married people can save unnecessary expenses more than unmarried people, it must be said that this is also a passive effect of marriage, it makes the family save more.
After careful consideration, after careful investigation, make a decision, make a decision in your twenties is far better than make a decision in your thirties, make a decision in your thirties is far better than regret in your forties, there may be room for salvation in your forties, and when you are in your fifties or sixties, you should focus on finding a nursing home and buying a treasure land with better feng shui.
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