Wen Feiyu.
People live a lifetime, and they are always trapped by human favors.
During the Chinese New Year, it is the most intensive period of human exchanges.
During the Chinese New Year, every family will go to visit relatives and visit each other.
Visiting relatives is a kind of human sophistication, you have to learn to figure out the human sophistication, then you will live to understand.
When you go to visit relatives during the Chinese New Year, don't ask long questions to your relatives, don't say something that shouldn't be said, and talk about some light topics during the New Year, otherwise everyone will be unhappy, then it will not be good.
When you get along with each other, if you say something wrong, then it is easy to offend others.
Therefore, during the Chinese New Year, when you go to visit relatives, there are four things you can't say!
1. It's not like relatives who say how much money they make.
No matter how much you earn, you should not say it in front of your relatives, and don't ask your relatives how much they earned.
People are actually very sensitive to money, even if they are relatives, they don't want to say how much money they make, and they don't want to talk about money.
You can talk about your plans, and you can ask your relatives what your plans are for this year, but don't ask your relatives directly how much money they have, how should others answer you? Isn't that embarrassing others? It's also very rude.
Some people's relatives think that you deliberately embarrassed them, so you deliberately showed off yourself, and deliberately asked them how much they earned.
If you are really good for your relatives, then if you have money, give it directly, don't belittle others and elevate yourself.
During the Chinese New Year, it is a good thing for everyone to get together, and it must make everyone happy.
Second, don't talk about your own troubles.
For the New Year, don't cry to others, let alone complain to others, even if you have a lot of grievances in your heart, don't pull each other to say as soon as you see your relatives.
When visiting relatives during the Chinese New Year, it is normal for relatives to sit together and talk about family routines, but don't put the worries in your heart on the table.
Because there is no such thing as empathy in this world, even if it is a relative, it can't replace you, and it may not help you.
Instead of complaining, it is better to have a happy New Year quietly, find a way to solve it yourself, and if you can not cause trouble to others, don't disturb others, and there is no need to tell others.
3. No matter whether the food served to you by relatives is good or not, don't say that it is unpalatable.
During the New Year's holidays, if there are relatives visiting the door, then they will definitely get a table of dishes for the relatives to eat.
When you go to a relative's house, the relative entertains you, buys a table of dishes and comes back to make it yourself, even if some dishes are not to your liking, even if the cooking is not very delicious, you should not say that it is unpalatable in front of everyone, which will make the relatives unable to come to the stage and make people very faceless.
At the dinner table, if you encounter a dish you like to eat, it doesn't matter if you clip one more piece, if you encounter a dish you don't like to eat, your relatives will clip it to you, and you can politely say that you will come by yourself.
Eating at someone else's house, whether it's good or not, we all have to accept it, we all have to learn to praise others, and we must learn to give others face, otherwise others won't want you to come to someone else's house next time.
Fourth, don't irritate others on topics that others don't want to mention.
During the Chinese New Year, everyone else is happily congratulating and talking about some happy topics, so don't wave the cold water of others, let alone expose other people's scars in front of everyone.
In fact, everyone has some topics in their hearts that they don't want to mention, don't pick things that others don't want to mention, and know how to take into account the feelings of others, otherwise others will be unhappy, and everyone will be unhappy this year.
During the Chinese New Year, don't compare, don't show off, don't deliberately stimulate others, know how to respect others, consider others' feelings, maintain good relationships, take into account the overall situation, treat others well, that is, treat yourself well.
We have to keep our mouths shut, don't say anything we shouldn't say, and live this year with dignity and dignity, so that everyone can live in harmony in the future.
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