I am a rural girl, born in 1963, I was born and raised in the countryside. My father was a deputy director of the county hospital, and my mother was a local tailor in the countryside.
Although my mother was a farmer, she really didn't farm much. When the farm is not working, she goes to work and sews clothes from every household, and when the farm is busy, she picks up the scattered clothes sent by others at home.
She was the only tailor in our area, and she had a good business. She rarely has time to go to the fields, she can't even plant seedlings, she can only pull seedlings.
I have six sisters in my family, I have three older sisters above me, an older brother and a younger brother below, but unfortunately my younger brother is a mute.
My father and mother are close relatives, my second sister and younger brother are mute, and the other four of us are normal and have no problems. It may be that the second sister and younger brother have taken over our bad genes, and the bad things have been shared on them.
The eldest sister married her brother-in-law who worked in the Food Bureau through her father's relationship, and later arranged for her to work in a food factory.
The second sister married a very poor man from a neighboring village, because she was mute and could not marry a good man. Although the second sister is very beautiful, she can't speak, and she is still much worse than normal people after all.
My brother used to be a barefoot doctor, but later the brigade recommended him to go to a health school, and when he came back, he worked in a traditional Chinese medicine hospital.
The third sister and I graduated from high school before and after, and our reading grades were very average, and we were not admitted to university or repeated. Because of self-knowledge, repeating is also a waste of money, and we went home to farm.
The younger brother was mute, he had poor balance, he walked on the uneven ridge road, stumbled and walked unsteadily, and his parents did not let him work in the fields.
In the past, when the team went to work, the third sister and I went to work, and after the production was delivered to the household, the responsible field was planted by me and the third sister, and my mother just helped pull some seedlings.
During the busy farming season, the two of us are exhausted.
I remember a double robbery season, we cut the grass, put it in the field to dry, ready to harvest in two days, who knows that the sky is not beautiful, the grass that is about to dry is wet by the rainstorm.
After the weather was fine, we went to dry the grass, and when it was about to be dried, God bullied people again, and it rained heavily in his old man's house.
In this way, we turned over and over again, but then the grass still sprouted. It takes time and effort, and I am tired enough to choke not to mention, the grass has sprouted, that gas, I really can't say, I think it's too hard to be a farmer.
Finally, there was an opportunity for my father to retire and send someone to replace him. At that time, the only candidates for replacement were me and the third sister, and we both competed to replace us, which made my parents embarrassed.
The third sister is a person with a relatively cold temperament, and it is rare to say a word in ordinary times, but she is very diligent, she opens the door in the morning, washes the pot and cooks the rice, and she also grows the vegetables in the vegetable garden, and she goes to water the vegetable garden every evening. That's how she did it all silently.
I'm a little lazy, I don't like to work, I usually be lazy if I can, I'm lazy, anyway, there is a third sister to do.
I have a lively personality, love to talk and laugh, and I think my parents like me more. However, the two of us fought back and forth, and our parents finally gave the replacement place to the third sister.
Her parents said that she was diligent and obedient, did a lot for the family, and contributed more to the family, so she couldn't let her chill.
Shouldn't that chill me? I was so angry that I said loudly to my parents, "You won't let me take over, I hate you, I will light a fire and burn down the house!" ”
My parents were afraid that I would do something stupid, so they hurriedly gave me money to buy me, and promised that in the future, my father and my eldest brother-in-law would work together to find a way to find a way to arrange a job for me.
But the third sister replaced the county hospital, a state-owned unit. Even if my father and eldest brother-in-law find a relationship to arrange a job for me in the future, it can only be the same as the eldest sister, a big collective.
What's more, how can it be so easy to arrange a job? It was the early '80s! I knew it was just my parents comforting me and fooling me.
In fact, when it comes to setting fire to the house, I just say cruel words, get over it, and vent it. How dare I set fire to a house? It's going to jail, I'm just scaring them.
Seeing my third sister go to work, but I was still squatting in the countryside, I was very angry, and I complained that my parents treated me badly.
At this time, the next-door neighbor introduced me to a subject, who was her cousin, a private teacher.
I didn't tell my parents that I went to see them alone. Coincidentally, the two of us looked at each other at once.
The subject's family gave me a piece of cloth, but I didn't dare to take it home, so I quietly left it at a friend's house and didn't let my parents know.
The two of us secretly dating, and we felt that we were a good fit for each other.
After dating for nearly half a year, I told my parents that I was getting married. Only then did my parents know that I had done so much without them.
They said I was bold, but they couldn't help it, they had already been sorry for me once, and they didn't dare to object this time, and besides, my object conditions were not bad.
At this time, we were engaged in a bright future, and half a year later, we got married.
A year after we got married, we were both happy. I gave birth to a daughter, and my husband passed the exam, changed from a private teacher to a public teacher, and became a person who eats national food.
My husband has a bit of a traditional concept and wants to have a son, but he is now a person with a unit, and according to the policy at that time, he could not have a second child.
But my husband's desire for a son was very strong, and he discussed with me that he was going to secretly have another one. I saw that he wanted a son so much, so I promised him another one.
In fact, I promised him that he was also selfish, I think he is now a unit and a person who gets a salary, and I am a farmer, if I don't agree to have a son, if he goes to find someone else to give birth in the future, then I won't regret it? If you don't get it, you can't even keep your marriage.
When my daughter was three years old, I became pregnant again. Four months later, I left my daughter in the care of my mother-in-law and went into hiding.
I hid in my eldest sister's house, and did not dare to go out all day in my room, which had a long wooden staircase leading to the attic.
When my eldest sister's neighbor came to visit the door, I quickly climbed from my room to the attic, and only when the neighbor was gone did I dare to go downstairs.
It was a very scary time, and as soon as the wind and grass were blowing, I quickly climbed up to the attic, not daring to make a sound, and even covering my mouth with a cough.
Pregnant in October, the melon is ripe. My husband's son finally came, and our family was very happy and felt that life was fulfilled.
Who knew that the secret was sparse, and I don't know how the news leaked, and our superbirth was reported.
Since I'm a farmer, there's nothing to gain. The brigade stabbed the matter to my husband's unit and asked my husband's unit to deal with my husband, and just like that, my husband was expelled from school and became a vagrant.
After his husband was expelled, he went back to work in the countryside and was ridiculed by the villagers, who laughed at him for losing his job in order to give birth to a son, which was unwise.
After being depressed for a while, my husband decided to find another way out.
It was also my husband's good luck that at that time, the social enterprise of our commune was quietly emerging, and my husband went to the social enterprise to become a salesman and a temporary worker.
He was selling safes at the time, because his husband had been a teacher, he could speak well, and the safe was quietly opening the market at that time, and the sales were relatively good, and my husband's sales performance was rising, and within a few years, my husband earned the first pot of gold.
My husband is a thoughtful, thoughtful, and tossing person, and he is always not satisfied with the status quo. After having money, he wanted to start a company and do accessories business.
At first, my husband was doing business alone in the provincial capital, but as the business got better and better, and he made more and more money, I found that my husband came back less and less.
When my sisters found out, they asked me not to stay at home and take my children to the provincial capital.
I listened to my sisters' words, and I took my children to live with my husband in the provincial capital during the summer vacation, and I asked my husband to transfer my children to another school.
After careful consideration, my husband moved the business in the provincial capital back to his hometown, and our family developed in his hometown in a down-to-earth manner.
Now, my children have all started a family, I have become a grandmother, a grandmother, and my family's business is not bad at present.
Now I understand what my parents did, and I think if I were a parent, I would do the same.
I think fate is good for me, although I didn't go to work in my father's unit at that time, but God gave me another way, I'm doing well now, and the third sister still envies me!
I am now a big believer in the saying that everything is best arranged.
Friends, if you are experiencing a bad situation and a setback, please believe that everything is the best arrangement. In the near future, you will definitely see another village.