Middle age, the crossroads of life, is not only the accumulation of time, but also the melting pot of emotions. It has witnessed our growth and changes, and it has also made us gradually understand in the baptism of the years: it is time to let go of some concepts.
So, in the emotional world of middle age, what concepts do we have to abandon?
1. Perfectionism: Why has it become a stumbling block in middle-aged relationships?
When we are young, we always think that love should be perfect and that our partner should be flawless. At that time, we were looking forward to the appearance of the "perfect" person with longing and fantasy for love. However, as the years go by, we gradually realize that perfection is actually an unattainable dream.
In middle age, we have experienced too many ups and downs and understood the true meaning of life. At this time, if we still cling to the concept of perfectionism, then our love life is likely to be in trouble. Because, in real life, no one is perfect. Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, and their own unique personality and way of doing things. If we always expect the other person to be flawless, then disappointment and contradiction will ensue.
So, how should we view imperfections in relationships in middle age? Actually, the answer is simple: learn to accept and tolerate. Accept each other's imperfections and tolerate each other's shortcomings. This does not mean that we should turn a blind eye to the problems in our relationship, but rather face and solve them with a more mature and rational attitude. Only in this way can our feelings stand the test of time and become stronger and deeper.
2. Obsession with the past: Why does it prevent us from embracing the present?
In middle age, we will more or less have some past obsessions. These obsessions may be an unforgettable love, or they may be some regrets that are difficult to let go. No matter what they are, they are like heavy burdens that weigh on our hearts and make it difficult for us to let go.
However, if we are always immersed in the past and cannot extricate ourselves, then we cannot truly live in the present moment and enjoy the happiness in the present. Because the past has passed, no matter how persistent and nostalgic we are, we can't change the established facts. On the contrary, this obsession will only make us miss the beauty in front of us and let happiness slip through our fingers.
So, how can you let go of the obsessions of the past? First of all, we need to face up to our hearts and acknowledge and accept the existence of the past. Then, we need to face the present and the future with a more positive and optimistic attitude. Don't let the shadows of the past cloud our hearts, but bravely step out of the gloom and welcome the new sunshine and rain. Only in this way can we truly embrace the present and enjoy the beauty and happiness of life.
3. Concern for the eyes of others: Why does it bind our feelings?
In middle age, we are more or less concerned about the eyes and opinions of others. In a relationship, this concern may manifest itself in expectations of a partner, social identification, etc. However, if we always care too much about the eyes of others, then our feelings will be easily swayed by external factors and lose their true color.
In fact, feelings are a journey that belongs to the individual. It should not be constrained by the eyes of the outside world, but should follow the true feelings and needs of the heart. If we always compromise in order to please others, then our feelings will become empty and hypocritical. On the contrary, it is only when we truly live for ourselves and pursue inner happiness that our feelings become real and powerful.
So, how can you get rid of the concern for the eyes of others? First, we need to build self-confidence in our choices and values. Then, we need to learn to listen to our inner voice and follow our true feelings and needs. Don't let the eyes of the outside world dictate our feelings, but be brave enough to pursue your own happiness. Only in this way can we truly get rid of the shackles and enjoy the freedom and beauty of our feelings.
To sum up, the three major concepts we must let go of in our relationships in middle age are: perfectionism, past obsession, and concern for the eyes of others. It is only when we truly let go of these obsessions that our feelings become more real, deep, and free. Therefore, let's face feelings with a more mature and rational attitude in the new stage of life in middle age! I believe that we will be able to find our own happiness and satisfaction in the long river of years.