In families with many children, the relationship between parents and children is often complex and delicate. Sometimes, we find a strange phenomenon: those children who have been with their parents for a long time and take care of them are not recognized and appreciated by their parents; And those children who are far away from their parents and ignore their parents, come back once in a while, buy some gifts, give some money, and their parents will feel extremely happy, and show off their filial piety everywhere. This phenomenon is not uncommon in real life, and people can't help but sigh: Is this what is called human nature?
There are many examples of this in our lives. For example, some children give up their careers and lives in order to take care of their parents, and take care of their parents' daily life wholeheartedly. However, parents turn a blind eye to their efforts and are full of praise for their children who occasionally come back to visit them. This phenomenon makes people feel helpless and chilling, and it also makes us think: why is this happening? Don't parents really know how to be grateful and cherish?
In fact, the emergence of this phenomenon is related to the psychology and cognition of parents. Parents age physically and psychologically as they grow older, and they need the company and care of their children. However, due to the pressure of work and life, children are often unable to stay with their parents for a long time. At this time, those children who occasionally come back to visit their parents have become the saviors and dependents of their parents. They will see the occasional care and care of these children as a precious gift, and they will feel extremely satisfied and happy.
However, this phenomenon also reflects the prejudice and injustice of some parents. They often only see the superficial behavior of their children, and ignore their hearts and dedication. They take their children who come back to visit them occasionally as a sign of filial piety, and take for granted those who have been with them for a long time. Such prejudice and injustice not only hurt the feelings of children, but also affect the harmony and stability of the family.
Therefore, we should learn to understand and respect the psychology and cognition of our parents, and we should also learn to express our feelings and needs. We should let our parents know that our dedication and efforts are motivated by love and responsibility for them, not by their approval and appreciation. At the same time, we should also learn to balance our work and life, give more companionship and care to our parents, and let them feel our love and warmth. Only in this way can we build good family relationships and allow our parents to enjoy their old age in peace.