Wenlinger sound painting.
In the face of other people's evaluations, we should analyze them rationally, and we should neither blindly accept them nor completely reject them. Everyone may have a different perspective on the same thing, so when interpreting other people's evaluations, we can start with the following aspects to make it beneficial to ourselves:
1.Distinguish the nature of the evaluation: first determine whether the evaluation is constructive or destructive. Constructive evaluations are often fact-based, providing concrete suggestions for improvement that contribute to our growth and progress. Damaging evaluations may be based solely on emotions or biases and have no real help.
2.Be objective and calm: Don't get complacent about other people's compliments, and don't feel sorry for yourself because of criticism. Objectively analyze the content of the evaluation to see if there are any lessons and lessons that you can learn.
3.Verification and reflection: If the evaluation involves a specific event or behavior, you can ask other trusted people to verify whether this perception is prevalent. At the same time, reflect on whether your behavior really needs to be improved.
4.Selective absorption: For beneficial suggestions, accept them with an open mind and put them into practice; For unreasonable criticism, if there is one, it will be corrected, and if it is not, it will be encouraged.
5.Insist on yourself: While listening to the evaluation of others, you must also adhere to your own principles and values. The opinions of others can be used as a reference, but the final decision should be based on your own judgment.
6.Communicate positively: If you feel confused or uncomfortable by someone else's review, you can take the initiative to communicate with the other person to understand the specific meaning and background of the review and avoid misunderstandings.
7.Continuous self-improvement: through continuous learning of new knowledge and skills, improve their overall quality, make themselves more confident, and be more calm in the face of evaluation.
Strategic personality psychology believes that everyone has their own values and strengths, and that the evaluation of others cannot define you, but is a reference. The key is how to use these evaluations to promote self-growth and refinement.
Strategic Personality Psychology