As we all know, communication is often the bridge to building good relationships, but why are many young people afraid to communicate with their parents? Especially during the Chinese New Year. As long as you follow logical reasoning, there are no more than the following related main reasons:
First of all, they know each other differently. Including cognitive framework, methodology, thinking analysis, knowledge reserve, etc. They are a leading cause of communication difficulties between children and parents. Obviously, due to the differences in growth environment and educational background, children and parents will have very different ways of looking at problems and dealing with things. For example, parents may be more interested in traditional morality, while we are more interested in individual freedom. This difference leads to disagreements and conflicts when communicating with our parents.
Secondly, emotionally, excessive parental interference or lack of respect is a sufficient reason for the difficulty of communication between children and their parents. It is a pity that under the influence of traditional culture and morality, our parents did not realize the seriousness of this problem, but thought that it was "for your good". For example, parents always want us to live our lives the way they want them and interfere too much in our choices and decisions. This makes us feel constrained, which in turn leads to feelings of revulsion and resistance.
Finally, the difference in each other's living environment is another high probability factor of ineffective communication between each other, which we can call for the time being the "suggestion collapse or ineffectiveness phenomenon", that is, "You are just like this, what's the big deal?" ”。In other words, any family member's suggestion can be prevaricated as "the situation is different". For example, the insistence and denial of marriage and childbirth and seed succession, and the variability of marriage forms.
The above are just the three primary inferences based on the principle of relevance of human behavior, and I believe you can experience the benefits and disadvantages for yourself!
Since the crux of the problem has been found, all that remains is to prescribe medicine. The most effective and adequate formula is the 12 words, that is, "respect each other, do not interfere with each other, and pay for yourself".
Although there may be some obstacles in communication between children and parents, as long as we respect each other's views and try to analyze rationally from the perspective of "life independence", it is not impossible to establish and form an effective communication model with parents.
Remember: trust is only possible after all this.