Many girls have such questions in their relationships, that is, why their conditions are not bad, they are very good in all aspects, and they have paid a lot for men, but they are not cherished.
And some of the girls around me feel inferior to themselves, but they can be favored by men in every relationship and loved by men.
In fact, in many cases, the degree to which men cherish you is not only related to your own hard conditions, but more soIt's to see if you can manage the relationship, and whether the method you use is right.
If you don't master the right method, you will definitely not be able to blindly pay on your own.
The reason why some girls can be comfortable in their relationships, no matter how long it has been, can be loved and spoiled by men, so that men can't do it anymore, is because they have done the following.
First of all, the first one, moderately cold, keep the sense of mystery
Many girls are prone to make a mistake in their relationship, that is, after they like a man, they are easy to lose themselves and always like to cling to men.
If you don't meet, just greet him every day with good morning and good night across a screen, care about him every day if he eats, sleeps, what are you doing, send messages one after another, regard men as the focus of his life, maintain a particularly high enthusiasm for him, pay for him in all kinds, and even to the point of forgetting himself.
These girls usually feel that they can get the same reward for their efforts, that is, if I am good to you, you must also be good to me, but many times in the relationship do not follow this rule.
Even if you give everything to him, he may not be able to fully see your goodnessIt's that the better you treat him, the more he feels that it doesn't matter, and from his point of view, he feels that he has completely mastered you, so he won't cherish it.
Two days ago, there was a student who was in this situation, when he found me, he said that he loved her boyfriend very much, so he was very enthusiastic about him, and in the end, the other party not only did not cherish it, but also felt annoyed, and even said to her directly, "Don't you have your own business?".Why do you stick to me every day?It's really annoying!”
In fact, this is human nature, sometimes it is a bit of a cheap attribute, the more you treat him, the more he has no fear, if you are cold to him, it can arouse his strong interest in you.
Because men are born with a desire to conquer, they will be full of desire for the kind that they don't get so much.
Therefore, sometimes you can be cold to men and let yourself retain a certain sense of mystery, so that men will be more willing to spend their minds on you and take the initiative to chase you, rather than just enjoying your efforts with peace of mind.
The second is to know how to leave blank
What is "white space"? In fact, this kind of work is generally used in the creation of artworks, or in writing, that is, to deliberately leave blank spaces, leaving people with more space for reverie, so that they are more willing to pay for this work.
Blank space is actually a very advanced technique, and it is also applicable to relationships.
For example, in the process of getting along with the other half, you don't always have to stick together, but keep some distance appropriately, so that both people can have space to breathe freely, and the relationship will be more intimate.
What is the saying? There is some truth to the fact that "distance produces beauty". Two people who love each other have a certain distance, but it can keep their feelings fresh.
No matter how much you like the other person, don't always follow his ass, what must you do? You must have your own independent life and your own circle. When I am working, I am busy with work and career, and when I am free, I go out with my friends to go shopping, chat, and develop hobbies.
In short, just do what you want to do, don't be self-a**, put your mind on men, and always want to stay together all the time. Only a moderate amount of blank space can make your relationship better and better.
The third is to focus on improving yourself
I told you before, what is the nature of feelings? It's about attracting each other, right, not relying on your blind giving, to humbly please each other.
A truly stable and beautiful relationship must be two people with independent personalities who are attracted to each other, appreciate each other, collide with the spark of love, maintain appreciation and recognition for each other, and are reluctant to leave.
Maybe at first, the other party will like you because of your appearance, but what must be the long-term attraction? It is your own personality charm, so you must pay attention to maintaining your own value and improving yourself, only in this way can your relationship last long.
But what about a lot of girls? Originally, a person's life was very colorful, with a career, friends, and goals to pursue, and every day was very fulfilling.
But after being with a man, he slowly gave up his circle, and his life became monotonous, and he revolved around a man every day, and he paid a lot but was not cherished in the end.
Therefore, teachers often tell everyone to be independent, no matter what, never forget to improve themselves, and always maintain their high energy. Even if you are married, you should never let yourself become an accessory to a man.
The love that a man desires must not be bound to you all the time, although a man needs to be recognized and worshipped, but he certainly doesn't want his other half to have nothing, just a good-looking vase, so that after a long time, he will feel that you are worthless, and even dislike you.
What is the best relationship state? It is that you are dependent on each other but independent, you have your own career, your own life, and shine in your respective fields, so that you can make men love inseparable.