In a relationship, every woman wants to be favored by a man, single-mindedly for herself, and only you in her eyes.
So many girls think that if they pay desperately, they can have a place in each other's hearts.
But I miss an important point, feelings are never how much you give, how much you will receive in return!
And the so-called careful management of feelings does not allow you to hold the spirit of sacrificing yourself to fulfill the other party.
Most of the women who make men reluctant to let go have lived out their own lives, have unique temperaments, personalities and opinions, and even resonate with men's thoughts.
Of course, they will also care about each other, so that men feel full of need.
What are their qualities?
First, be independent and do not interfere too much.
This is also a very important point in the relationship, to have their own independent space, not to interfere too much with each other, so that they can get along comfortably and for a long time.
Many girls don't understand this and feel that since two people are together, they are integrated into a whole and should not be separated from each other.
The other party has to meddle in everything, hoping that the other party will make changes according to their own ideas, and their own things are always told to each other in every detail, thinking that this can make each other closer.
Couples who don't have free space often can't reach the end together, because everyone has some secrets that they don't want others to know, including partners.
If you cross the line, not only will you not be closer to each other, but it may also accelerate the separation even further.
I have a friend who has to interfere with what her boyfriend wears and eats every day, and she must go according to her wishes, otherwise she will get angry.
As a result, within two years, my boyfriend ran away, saying that living with her was too suffocating, there was no room for freedom, and I was too tired.
So you have to know how to keep a certain distance from each other, everyone has their own hobbies and ideas. You can't force someone to cater to you.
Second, if you have something to say, don't let the other party guess.
A common situation in relationships is that many girls always like to let men guess. If he loves me, he should know what I want!
In fact, on the surface, this is not much of a problem, it is a kind of love between partners, but some people do not grasp the scale well, which will cause men to resent it.
You can take a look at this conversation:
Woman: "Rest today, let's go out for a walk?" ”
Man: "Yes, you want to go?"
Woman: "It's all right." ”
Man: "Shall we go to the park?" ”
F: "There's nothing fun in the park. ”
Man: "Then let's go to the mall, didn't you mention last time that you didn't buy a piece of clothing?" ”
Woman: "I went to see the clothes again before, but they are out of stock." ”
Male: "If you don't go climbing, exercise and be healthy." ”
Woman: "Don't go, it's so hot this day, and you'll come back with a stinky sweat when you climb the mountain." ”
Man: "This doesn't work, that doesn't work, what the hell do you want to do?" ”
Maybe once or twice, the man will cooperate, but if he is always asked to guess, he will also become impatient, and this way of getting along will consume each other's feelings.
In fact, you obviously want your boyfriend to accompany you to the mall, and by the way, he can help you buy the necklace you have been fancy for a long time.
You let him guess, and if you don't tell him what you want, how will he know.
Whether I can help you buy it also depends on the actual situation, if it is suitable, maybe he won't say a word.
For example, some sisters are obviously unhappy, but they just don't say it, they hold it in their hearts, and they keep their faces black in the next process of getting along, which will also affect each other's mood.
You feel that the other party doesn't care about you, the other party thinks that you are looking for something to do, and the misunderstanding arises, and if you don't communicate, the relationship will also be affected.
So don't keep letting the other party guess, you have to grasp that degree. You have to know how to pay attention to your own needs, express them effectively, and let the other person understand, so that each other is happy and the relationship will be very harmonious.
Third, don't be afraid of losing, and love yourself at all times before you are qualified to love others.
If you want a man to be inseparable from you, you have to have the mentality of not being afraid of losing in the relationship, it will be you after all.
The more you fear losing the other person, the more you tend to lose your proportion. If you pose too low, the other party will look down on you.
As the old saying goes, the more you try to hold on, the faster something disappears.
The more you care about the other person, the easier it is for the other person to ignore you. Because you will unconsciously make concessions in the process of getting along, so that men will not respect you, and will only pinch you more.
will also hurt you more unscrupulously, he knows that you care about him and will not leave him, and you compromise again and again in order to keep him, which is a vicious circle in the relationship.
A man has a desire to conquer, he is not too interested in the prey at his fingertips, the kind of prey that makes him feel that he can catch it, and he will be reluctant to let go of the prey that he slips away when he is about to get it.
So you have to establish a mentality that you are not afraid of losing, let him know that you are not something he can handle at will, you also have your own ideas, and if he does not give you the corresponding respect and feedback, you will leave at any time.
Having your own unique personality charm will naturally attract men who appreciate you.
You don't have to cater to each other, just be that unique you, and the breeze will come naturally.
Do you understand!