Every time I mention being PUA, it's always off-putting:
If you can't do this little thing, what else can you do? ”
If you're fat like this, you're embarrassed to eat."
It's such a big person, and I can't even take care of a child."
It seems that life is always filled with these oppressive atmospheres, whether it is parents or bosses, they are always pua themselves intentionally or unintentionally. Over time, before being evaluated, you will unconsciously be nervous, and you will already think that you will hear bad opinions.
People who are really PUA, whenever they receive punishment, will find it difficult to control the guilt and shame in their hearts, and it is even more difficult to adapt in front of others.
Why can others do it, only I can't.
I can't even do this little thing, why am I so useless.
If you really think so, it is equivalent to being unintentionally PUA, because the next time the same thing happens, you will definitely work harder to please others. The characteristic of PUA is to suppress others and control others.
The only one who can really save yourself is yourself, please "let go" of yourself.
Most people in the world have similar IQs, and if others say you're stupid, are you stupid? If you don't do a good job, it doesn't mean that you will never do well, the gap between all the performances of people is actually the difference in personality, in fact, there is no such thing as "stupid or not", don't deny yourself completely.
We always think that if we indulge ourselves a little, we will be suspected by others, and we always think too badly about things; In the face of other people's accusations, I always double my suspicion that "I didn't work hard enough", but in fact, harsh spurs will only paralyze myself.
I suggest that this kind of thing happen again in the future, just hint to yourself: "It's nothing, I don't do it well this time, I will definitely do it next time, I believe in myself" and then put the scolding of others behind me, and don't blame yourself excessively.
Because when someone else can PUA you, it means that you have been injured, so please spare yourself.