There is a good saying that "there is an old man in the family, if there is a treasure", the old people have lived in this society for decades, experienced all kinds of ups and downs, and some things have been experienced, and they naturally experience the experience.
This is what my grandmother told me, share it with everyone, if you want to live a good life, you must remember it!
To put it bluntly, everyone wants to find someone with better conditions, after all, marriage is also an opportunity to change their fate, and if you don't do it, you can save decades of struggle. But ask yourself, if you find someone with good conditions, will you be able to live the life you want?
I don't think so! Although some people find a person with good conditions, but there are constant conflicts after marriage, and their lives are very bad, and in the end they choose to divorce, and there are not a few people.
Although the material is very important, but the door will be more important, I really advise everyone, if their own conditions are good, try to find good conditions, but if their own conditions are average, then try to only find the conditions in general.
Because the family is right and the conditions of both parties are similar, then the habits and concepts in all aspects of life, that is, the so-called three views, will be more consistent, so that there will not be so many contradictions after marriage, and it will be easier to be happy.
A family is actually a big collective, and if all members of the family work together, then the family will not only develop quickly, but also get better and better. On the contrary, if there are always people in a family who are engaged in internal friction there, the whole family is like a plate of loose sand. Even if you try hard, life is likely to get worse and worse.
To give a very simple example, for example, there is an ignorant person in the family, who is always there to worry about it, quarrel and contradict at every turn, and quarrel every day when he comes home, in this case, he doesn't have much mind to go out to make money, let alone study how to make a lot of money.
This is also one of the reasons why some people would rather become older single men and women than find someone to get married, because if they don't meet the right person, they will not be happy after marriage, even if they form a family, so what?
At this stage, there are two main ways to provide for the elderly, either to save money for the elderly, or to pay social security well and receive social security pension in the future. Don't talk about raising children to prevent old age like before.
It's not that the current children are not filial enough, but that the current children are also under a lot of pressure, and many times they are simply powerless.
Let's settle the accounts, putting aside the rich, let's just say that most of the children of ordinary people, even if they leave their hometowns and go to work hard in big cities, most ordinary people only have a salary of a few thousand yuan a month.
Even if the son and daughter-in-law both go out to work, one person counts his salary of 8,000 yuan per month, and the total of the two people is 160,000 income.
Let's take a look at the cost again:
The mortgage plus property fees, water and electricity bills and other miscellaneous expenses are about 5,500 yuan.
The car loan is about 2,000 yuan.
Raising a car for 10,000 or 20,000 yuan a year costs about 1,500 yuan a month on average.
The son and daughter-in-law spent 3,000 yuan on food.
Raising a child, diapers, milk powder, seeing a doctor and buying medicine, basically costs 2,000 yuan a month.
Coupled with some other miscellaneous small expenses in life, such as the money for personal contacts, the money spent on occasionally going out for a meal, ** fees, broadband fees, etc., the two of them will also have about 1,500 yuan a month.
The daughter-in-law's cosmetics, clothes, bags, skin care products, etc., basically cost 500 yuan per month.
Even if a man doesn't smoke or drink, all of the above costs add up to 160,000 yuan, the income of each person for two people is 8,000 yuan a month, and it is only 1 a monthThe income of 60,000 yuan is only, so there is not a penny left at all. How much money do you have to provide for your parents? Unless you don't take out a loan, there is less pressure to buy a house. But if you want to marry a daughter-in-law this year, it's still a bit difficult if you don't have a house.
Therefore, don't pin all the hope of old-age care on the child, it's not that the child is not filial, but sometimes the child is really weak, in fact, our pension is better than relying on oneself, more reliable.
After all, the countryside can't keep young people, now even if it is a family that has built a house in their hometown, it is basically an older generation living in it, and many young people simply can't stay in their hometown for a long time, guarding that one acre and three points of land to farm, so if you really want to build a house in your hometown, just build one or two floors enough to live, and you don't need to build too high floors at all, otherwise it is a waste to be idle there.