What problems do women encounter when they reach middle age?
How should emotions, desires, life, and family cope?
If you want to know the answer, you might as well watch the February ** Dynamic Incentive Plan under this bold, but tragically deleted Chinese film. Of course, don't forget to look for the answer because of the scale:
"Tropical Rain".
Ah Ling, 40 years old, Malaysian, after marriage, followed her husband to Singapore and became a Chinese teacher.
Although she is middle-aged, she is on herThere is no trace of time, and it is still intellectually charming.
Although it seems that life is good, she has always had a regret in her heart.
That is, not having children
So that her husband became more and more indifferent to her, in order to save her feelings, in order to have a childShe often endured the pain of injecting herself with ovulation injections in order to be able to get pregnant.
But her husband didn't feel the slightest distress for him, and often stayed away from home for several days in the name of work.
A husband can take care of the family, but Ah Ling cannot.
Because there is also a father-in-law who is paralyzed in bed all the year round.
As the saying goes:
In marriage, women choose to take responsibility, while men tend to run away.
For the sake of the family, she hired a nanny to take care of her during the day, and hurried home after work at nightServe your father-in-law like a child.
Eating, drinking, washing, cooking, and even bathing all had her help.
Sometimes she also feels very tired, but when she thinks of her husband who is struggling outside,She can only comfort herself, encourage herself, and persevere.
Not only is life stressfulAt work, she was even more exhausted.
Because students in Singapore speak English every day, they pay less attention to Chinese classesSo much so that many students don't take Ah Ling seriously.
Talking casually, sleeping, skipping class, and not handing in homework, which made Ah Ling extremely distressed.
But there was one person who behaved very well.
His name is:Wei Lun, his grades are very bad, but his parents hope that he can return to China to do business in the futureI hope he can learn Chinese well.
Ah Ling also thought that Wei Lun was more attentive to Chinese because of his parents' requestBut I don't want to, Wei Lun has a special affection for her.
Because his parents are away all the year round, Wei Lun rarely feels the love of others, but Ah Ling has always been very good to him, and even sent him home on a rainy dayThis made him feel warm and liking.
Ah Ling was very pleased to see that Wei Lun was studying seriously, and not only often helped him make up for his classesI also took durian and shared it with him.
One day, the nanny Ah Ling asked for leave of absenceMy father-in-law needs someone to take care of him, but Wei Lun's class hasn't been made up yet
There was no way, Ah Ling took Wei Lun home later.
And the father-in-law saw that Wei Lun couldn't write a wordHe used his fingers to teach Wei Lun how to write Chinese.
At lunch that day, there were finally three people in the family to eatAnd this warm picture is like a family.
At night, Ah Ling waited for her husband in the roomBecause today is ovulation, she told her husband to come back early.
But she didn't want to, not only did her husband still come back late, but he also told her impatiently
I've been trying for eight years, and it's a long time ago.
Her husband's words made Ah Ling extremely sad.
When her husband did not cooperate, she went to the hospital for help.
Hoping for a test tube, in the hospital, she lay alone on the cold operating table, enduring the pain of a long needle inserting into her body.
But physical pain is far more torturous than mental pain.
A few days later, Ah Ling not only received a notice of the failure of the test tube in the hospitaleven found evidence of her husband's cheating.
Faced with such facts, Ah Ling returned home to serve her father-in-lawFinally I couldn't help it and started crying.
And the father-in-law who can't speak,Xiang Ling pointed to the words on the wall, "laugh".
In this way, he hopes that Ah Ling can face it with a smile no matter what happens.
Although he is Ah Ling's burden, he is not Ah Ling's spiritual pillar for this family.
found that Ah Ling had recently lost Wei Lun, in order to make him happy, he invited Ah Ling to watch his kung fu performance, and Ah Ling took her father-in-law to go togetherAfter winning the championship in Weilun, in order to celebrate,
Ah Ling and her father-in-law decided to invite Wei Lun to eat durian.
On the dining table, looking at Wei Lun, who carefully fed his father-in-law fruits,Ah Ling suddenly had a hint of heartbeat, which was a gentleness that her husband had never had.
One stormy night, my father-in-law passed awayAh Ling's only concern in this family is gone
At the funeral, Ah Ling silently folded ingotsThe other sons and daughters of the father-in-law are arguing over the inheritance
What's even more shocking is thatThe husband actually showed up at the funeral with his lover and his lover's child.
Ah Ling was furious, but the only thing she could vent at the funeral could only be:
Helping my father-in-law burn ingots is like burning all his troubles.
After everything, Ah Ling returned to school, because she no longer needed to go home to take care of her father-in-law, she sent Wei Lun home by the way, and the relationship between the two became closer and closer.
But he didn't want to, maybe the two were too close, Wei Lun couldn't help it and hugged Ah Ling.
And then everything goes with the flow.
Afterwards,Ah Ling thought that Wei Lun was just impulsive, so she always chose to dodge
But Wei Lun's long-suppressed love finally broke out and wanted to be by her side all the time.
Once the two met on the bus, Ah Ling deliberately avoided it, but she didn't want Wei Lun to not only sit next to her, but also hold her hand.
Ah Ling, who resisted ineffectively, had to use a folder to cover the clasped hands of the twoAnd gradually showed a warm smile,
It's been a long time since anyone has loved her so sincerely
At this moment, the four big words "courtesy, righteousness, honesty and shame" on the folder gradually became blurred.
But Wen Cun is always short-lived, and the relationship between the two was ** because Wei Lun's mobile phone was robbed.
The results can be imaginedAh Ling was dismissed from the school, and the two were also attacked by ** and had to be separated.
Her family is on the verge of collapse, and now, her only job and warmth have also been lost.
On the day I left school, it was raining heavily.
Wei Lun hugged Ah Ling tightly and cried"My heart hurts, it really hurts. ”
And Ah Ling just replied:"You'll get used to it later. ”
This time, she also took the initiative to hug Wei Lun,
This time, she finally knew that she was also a flesh-and-blood woman with feelings.
When she returned home, Ah Ling soon divorced her husband, but when she was packing,She actually found out she was pregnant.
Eight years of hard work is not as good as an accident.
It turned out that she had never been pregnant, not because of her own problem, but because her husband was unable to have children
In the past 8 years, she has always wanted to have a child to save her family and her feelings.
But when the child finally arrived, she lost her family, which is ridiculous.
At the end of the film, Ah Ling returned to her hometown Malaysia.
She gave up, originally she thought that the most important family, feelings, and decency.
At this moment, a ray of sunlight shone on her face, and she showed an unprecedented ease and smileFrom then on, she could finally live only for herself.
This is "Tropical Rain", Ah Ling's pain and pressure, desire and imitationIt interprets the pain of women in a midlife crisis.
Taking care of the children, serving the elderly, and tidying up the house, they put the best time and years at the center of their family.
Even in order to maintain the family, he doesn't live like himself.
But if you give everything, in exchange for just one sentence:
What can you be busy with at home? What do you have to keep busy?
The family's incomprehension, emotional incompanionship and comfort
It is undoubtedly extremely frustrating and painful.
You have to know that not all sincerity can be exchanged for sincerity, so no matter what time it isPlease have the courage to be kind to yourself, to live your life more.
What do you think?