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Marriage is not only related to two couples who voluntarily become partners, but also a major event related to the family. For a long time, the traditional marriage model of "male marriage and female marriage" has been pursued, but in recent years, "two-headed marriage" has quietly emerged and is widely favored by young people.
What exactly is this new type of marriage? How did it gradually increase? Can you accept this form of marriage?
A new type of marriage exists.
Existence is reasonable, what is a "two-headed marriage"? In short, it breaks the traditional form of marriage, no longer emphasizes the concept of the woman marrying the man, and after marriage, the husband and wife can choose to live in **, and the two either live together or return to their respective homes to live.
In addition, children born are no longer confined to the man's surname, and some spouses who choose this form will choose to have two offspring, each following the surname of both parents. This novel form of marriage was not understood at first, but with the development of the times, it gradually became popular and has an increasing trend.
On the one hand, the cumbersome affairs brought about by the traditional form of marriage make young people feel a heavy financial burden before marriage. This situation has caused some young people to become anxious about traditional marriage and to look for more lenient ways to marry.
Especially for only daughters, traditional marriage can mean that they need to live in the man's family for a long time after marriage, making it difficult to return home to see their parents often, triggering fears about marriage.
On the other hand, changes in social attitudes have also promoted the rise of "two-headed marriage". With the continuous progress of the times, people gradually got rid of the shackles of tradition and began to pay attention to individual choice and happiness.
The younger generation places greater emphasis on gender equality and is unwilling to be bound by traditional ideas. Therefore, this form becomes a new way to solve the problem, it reduces the burden of marriage and allows both spouses to face marriage more equally.
This new type of marriage exists a long time ago, but the public didn't know much about it before, and there is an expert on the Internet who is one of the representatives of "two-headed marriage". After she and her husband get married, they will choose to return to their own homes and stay with their biological parents during the Chinese New Year.
Traditional marriage. For ordinary people, getting married is a major event that most people will experience. If there are marriageable people in the family, whether or not they have the desire to spend the rest of their lives with their other half, parents and even relatives will begin to urge marriage openly and secretly, and if there is no marriage partner, the seven aunts and eight aunts will begin to play their roles.
The traditional way of marriage is usually described as "male marriage and female marriage", the wife implements the other half of the necessary gift money to marry, showing his sincerity to marry his wife, of course, some girls to be married may still have the need to buy a house and a car, then at this time, the man also needs to have these hard conditions, showing the sincerity and demand for the woman.
Of course, marriage is not only the sincerity of the man, but also the family of the girl to be married also needs to prepare certain items or funds to show their contribution and support to the future family. Men and women usually pay attention to the right person, such as bride price and dowry, and the sincerity of both men and women should be relatively equal, otherwise there may be an imbalance in the hearts of both parties.
After a wedding, it is usually the girl who moves to her partner's house and lives with the other person's family, and if they have their own house, they live in their house, but living with the man's parents becomes a common phenomenon.
Although this traditional form of marriage continues to this day, with the development of the times, people's demand for life has increased, and more people have begun to oppose this form.
Some people believe that this traditional way of getting along after marriage seems unfair to women, and after marriage, they need to live with the man's family for decades, and need to re-accept the new family habits. If your in-laws and your mother's family are far away, you may not be able to go home for several years, and although transportation is developed these days, you don't have a lot of time to go home.
With the general increase in people's educational qualifications, they have begun to examine this way of marriage, and more and more people hope to break the traditional shackles and find a marriage relationship in which men and women are still equal and free after marriage. It is precisely for this reason that the new form of getting along after marriage has entered people's field of vision and into the lives of more people.
The disadvantages of the new way of marriage.
Although this new way of getting married is popular among some people, it is not flawless.
If both spouses choose this form, the wife needs to have two offspring, each with the surname of the two spouses, living separately, and each of the two families raising one child. This means that the woman has to go through at least two reproductive processes, and at this stage, it will cause great damage to her health and affect her work.
If one child gives birth to a boy and the second child gives birth to a girl, there may be a problem of unfair distribution, although the concept of preference for sons has been diluted, but it is impossible to avoid comparisons and contradictions between families. Moreover, the two children grew up in different environments, and their cultures, values, and living habits were also different.
"Two-headed marriage" can also affect the relationship between spouses. When a spouse gets married, they can choose where they want to live. The reason for choosing this form is that the woman does not want to leave her parents is a large part, so it is usually the woman who goes back to her own home to live, and the same is true for the man.
This way of life affects the stability of family life to a greater or lesser extent. In a way, the separation after marriage can be a challenge for the affection and intimacy between the two married people, and a long separation can lead to a distant relationship between them.
Of course, the premise of the existence of this type of marriage is that both husband and wife recognize and accept, and there is naturally a lot of confidence in the relationship, and generally there will be no weakening of the relationship, which is a great test of trust between husband and wife.
Nowadays, the emphasis is on the freedom of marriage, even if the newlyweds still follow the traditional form of marriage, but usually choose to buy a new house, the young couple live in the new house, on the one hand, to avoid the conflict between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, on the other hand, they can better enjoy the world of the two, and the lifestyle of young people is different from that of their elders, they prefer to live according to their own preferences.
Write at the end. "Two-headed marriage" is an attempt and change to the traditional way of marriage, which is recognized under some specific conditions, but it is not suitable for everyone. The choice of the form of marriage ultimately depends on the wishes and adaptations of the spouses.
No matter what form of marriage, two people from strangers to acquaintances, and then to become a family, growing old together, it is fate, husband and wife should trust each other, respect and care for each other, filial piety to their elders, educate their children, work together, and have a better life.
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2. Reader-"A Fujian Girl's Two-Headed Marriage: Surname Rights, Maternity Expenses, and the Disappeared In-laws" (2023.)1.6)
3. Beijing News - "Farewell to Bride Price and Dowry: The Practice of "Two-headed Marriage" in a Village (2023.)8.23）
4, Pingyi Financial Media - "Two-headed marriage has quietly appeared in my country, and the wind reviews are polarized, and it may become the mainstream of marriage in the future" (2022.)9.5)
5. Red Star News - ""Two-headed Marriage" Solves the Pain Points of Marriage, But Don't Ignore Potential Problems (2020.)12.21）
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