The New Year has arrived, and every family is busy visiting relatives and friends to celebrate this traditional festival.
However, for many people, in addition to joy and reunion, there is another headache - that is, facing the "three urgings" of relatives, namely asking for wages, urging marriage and forcing children to have children.
How to skillfully resolve these awkward scenes?
This article will provide you with some practical advice.
It's easy to feel stressed when we're asked about our salary by our relatives.
But remember, calm down before answering the questions.
Don't be anxious or ashamed of the curiosity of others.
After all, "money is something outside the body", no matter what kind of economic state you are currently in, it is worth looking at it with a normal heart.
If you don't want to answer the question directly about salary, change the subject or defuse the situation with humor.
"Oops, what a busy lately! I'd rather hear the story of my uncle's recent trip to photograph the landscape. ”By shifting the subject and showing interest in other aspects of the elders' life experiences, it can be effective in relieving the awkward atmosphere.
If you don't feel the need to hide your income, you can choose to be upfront about it.
"Uncles and aunts, don't worry, my job is stable and my life is good. ”Showing a moderate level of self-confidence will make the people around you more recognize what you have done and develop positively.
You need to be especially cautious when talking about intimate topics like marriage and childbearing.
The first thing to realize is that everyone may have different needs and expectations in this regard, and not everyone wants to follow the same path step by step.
If you are really thinking about getting married or having children, then you can simply explain:
"At present, we are focusing on career development, finding suitable people, and planning for the future."At the same time, it emphasizes that active exploration and thinking are underway, which can show a mature and rational attitude.
Overall, in the process of dealing with the "three urgings" of relatives, please maintain your inner peace and calm.
Knowing each other and knowing oneself will not be defeated in a hundred battles", calm and calm can give a good impression to the surroundings.
At the same time, according to the specific situation, it can be handled in a flexible way to eliminate tension.
The above is the article sorted out to cope with the Chinese New Year"Three reminders"Strategy, let you answer easily!
The Chinese New Year is a festive day, and if you meet relatives asking questions, the answers are inappropriate, and the two parties are unhappy, it is not worth it.
Here to emphasize, your own feelings are the most important, don't change your life plan because of outsiders' comments and gossip, good advice can be listened to, bad or unsuitable comments for yourself, please automatically block or euphemistically refute.I wish you a happy and healthy New Year!