In rural China, there are many old sayings, one of which is that "if there are three in the family, the family will die". This proverb contains rich cultural connotations and life wisdom, reflecting the ancient people's awe and belief in family, fortune and nature. Among the three taboos, they are "son-in-law **, the family will die", "the living will borrow a house, the family will die" and "the death of the family is too much, and the family will die". These taboos seem simple, but in fact they carry the inheritance of rural culture and the accumulation of wisdom. Let's delve into these three taboos and find out their truth and modern significance.
Son-in-law **, the family will also die", this saying is not simply literal, but contains a belief in the well-being and auspiciousness of the family. After her daughter gets married, she will be the daughter-in-law who washes her hands and washes the bowl, and when she goes back to her parents' house, she will share the bed with her husband, which will be considered to take away the fortune of her mother's family. This custom stems from the ancient people's emphasis on good fortune and family fortune, believing that the daughter who washes her hands and makes soup has integrated into the new family, and should keep her distance from her husband when she returns to her parents' home, so as not to take away the good fortune of the family. However, nowadays, with the changes of the times and the evolution of customs, this taboo has been diluted by more and more people. Modern people are more concerned about personal dignity and well-being, rather than being overly bound by traditional taboos.
Expansion: In contemporary society, with the change of family structure and concept, people's identification with this traditional custom gradually decreases. When a daughter goes to her parents' home to share a bed with her husband, it is seen as a gesture of affection and warmth, rather than a factor that causes problems in the family. Modern society places more emphasis on equality and respect among family members, and no longer attaches great importance to the inheritance of blessings and family fortunes as the ancients did.
If the living borrow a house, the family will also die", this proverb aims to regulate the use of one's own house, especially not allowing women other than their own daughters-in-law to have children at home. The ancients believed that having a child with blood could bring bad omen and bring bad luck and misfortune to the homeowner. Therefore, not allowing outsiders to have children at home is to protect the well-being and safety of the family. Although this custom is gradually declining in modern society, it also reflects the reverence for life and health of ancient people.
Expansion: With the improvement of medical conditions and the improvement of living standards, modern people's requirements for the reproductive environment are also increasing. People are more concerned about hygiene, safety and medical conditions, and fertility is advocated in professional health care facilities rather than at home. As a result, this custom has been gradually diluted in contemporary society and replaced by modern scientific knowledge.
If a person dies, the family will die, and the family will die", a common saying warns the family to respect the affairs of the deceased, and it is not appropriate to bring the seriously ill elderly home. The ancients believed that the inability to return home after the death of a person who went out to die would bring bad luck and bad luck to the family. Therefore, if the deceased dies in a foreign country, it is necessary to set up a shed outside to deal with the aftermath to prevent the deceased from entering the home again. Although this custom is becoming less and less appreciated, it reflects the reverence and caution of the ancients regarding life and death and family fortune.
Expansion: With the progress of society and the improvement of the legal system, people's perceptions of death and funeral have gradually changed. Modern society pays more attention to respecting the wishes of the deceased and the feelings of their families, and is no longer too superstitious and taboo like the ancients. At the same time, the improvement of modern medical conditions and safety measures has also made people have a greater guarantee for the safety of going out for medical treatment.
In today's society, traditional rural sayings and taboos are gradually diluted and replaced by modern values. However, the cultural connotations and wisdom contained in these sayings are still worth pondering. To inherit the essence of rural culture, we should not only respect tradition, but also pay attention to the rational interpretation of modern scientific knowledge. Only on the basis of the combination of traditional culture and modern ideas, can we better inherit and carry forward the excellent traditions of rural culture and realize the integration and innovation of culture. May we be able to inherit and carry forward the excellent traditional Chinese culture with an inclusive attitude and an open mind, and contribute to the construction of a better society.