Albert Einstein once said:"There is nothing more beautiful in the world than having a few friends who are upright and upright in their hearts. ”
Friendship is like mellow aging, the longer it is stored, the more you can taste the preciousness and richness of it, so that you will never want to return.
Looking back on the past, when I was ascetic on the road to study, I was not alone, and I was always accompanied by like-minded classmates.
This kind of friendship is still a shining place in memory, and no matter how the years polish, it is difficult to hide the brilliance.
But everything in this world may change at a certain point, and the relationship between old classmates will not always be the same.
If you reach your old age and have old classmates invite you to a party, don't just agree to participate casually, you may step into these 3 traps.
I haven't been in touch for a long time, and my classmates have faded
Most people go to a class reunion for the first time, and they are mostly apprehensive and expectant, and they always have something to say after not seeing each other for many years.
But when you really arrive at the scene, you may not be greeted as you imagined, but more likely to be embarrassed and boring.
In my memory, some people who are more familiar with me are still in the past, but the years have changed their faces.
Even friends who used to talk about everything, because of a long period of estrangement, have become strange and restrained, and there is no common topic.
Even most of the so-called classmates have never crossed paths in the past, and now even if they meet, they can't call each other's names.
After greeting each other and politely greeting each other, they could only talk awkwardly with each other's discomfort, without the ease of imagination.
Someone once asked on Zhihu: What is the one thing that makes you suddenly feel strange and alienated from a person?
One of the most liked answers was: "When I talk about something from the past, the other person says I don't remember." ”
The so-called things are not people, and the passage of time aptly describes such a scene, and some things cannot be returned in the past.
No matter how much love and righteousness are valued, and people with deep feelings and meanings are hard to beat the consumption of time, no matter how hard they try to reminisce, they can't return to the taste of the past.
As Franklin said:
"Time is so cruel, it can take away a person's face, it can wear down feelings, and acquaintances can become strangers. ”
The relationship that has been cut off from touch is, to some extent, dead from the moment it is no longer connected.
Class reunions, accustomed to secretly comparing
As long as everyone has shortcomings, one of the very common points is that they like to show off when they are in the ascendant, and they are afraid that people will know when they are down.
The love of face is a public issue for most people, but it is difficult to change or quit, especially among classmates.
When you go to school, everyone's academic performance is divided by ranking, and those who study well are naturally psychologically superior, which is understandable.
After working, their respective power and status have become the object of comparison, and the rich and powerful party always wants to suppress others.
As a result, the class reunion, which was originally a story of old love, has changed its flavor from the nature and has become a "sales meeting" that can be compared with each other.
Just like the part played at the beginning of the movie "Charlotte's Troubles", Charlotte happily attended the wedding of her classmate Qiuya, and the purpose was not pure.
In order to show off the fact that he has lived a privileged life over the years, he wears borrowed luxury brands and dresses proudly.
And after getting together with old classmates, few of us really came to miss the old feelings, all to show off their wealth.
Even if these superficial riches are not real, in order not to fall behind in the comparison, they must pretend to be prominent.
As Wang Yizhu said:
"Happiness is the thing, the most afraid of comparison, if happiness is built on comparison, it will inevitably be lost in an instant, vulnerable. ”
If there is no precious true affection between classmates, only pretending to be hypocritical, you don't need to step into this trap.
Comparison will make all feelings tasteless, like a boring dream, and when you wake up, nothing will be left.
The spoiled classmate relationship is like a piece of chicken ribs
What is "chicken ribs", the food is tasteless, it is a pity to discard it, it looks very valuable on the surface, and it is meaningless when you taste it.
The reason why we miss this relationship is because we remember that we and they have had a simple and beautiful relationship.
In those years of youth and no regrets, they inspired each other to move forward and spent the best years of their lives together.
Everyone was once a teenager full of ideals, and everyone had the courage to move forward without fear, but this enthusiasm full of vitality has changed.
Each other is no longer driven by feelings, but regards interests as a bond, and if it is profitable, it will be close, otherwise it will be rejected.
is like a sentence summed up by netizens:"Old classmates suddenly contact themselves, and there are generally only two things, borrowing money and borrowing light. ”
The former must have been experienced by countless people, and the latter is even more extreme, completely exchanging past feelings into benefits.
Previously, there was news on the Internet that a woman sent an invitation notice to all her classmates on the grounds of marriage.
Including all her classmates in elementary school, junior high school, high school and college, they sent invitations one after another, and asked for gift money whether they came or not.
Many people can't wipe their face, even if they are not familiar, they are courteous, and she has also collected a lot of money through this method.
But the most infuriating thing is that she actually blacked everyone out afterwards, for fear that she would give someone a gift in return, which is really greedy.
The love of classmates is certainly beautiful, but it is only in the past, and it may be better to let it be sealed in the dust.
Joe Santayana has a saying that's true:
"Social interaction is like air, you can't live without it, but it's not enough to sustain your life. ”
In life, it is difficult to find a confidant, don't try to let everyone know about yourself, and don't waste time on hypocrisy.
Live your own life, warm yourself, and let your life have something to do in your old age, so that you can live a life to the fullest.
Disappointment can make you more lonely, and instead of getting warmth from others, you should keep yourself warm.
A person can also fill his life to the full, and he can also make himself feel happy and warm.
Life is one's own after all, only oneself is the only constant protagonist, I hope everyone can enjoy life quietly.