Returning home for the New Year is sad for the migrant workers who have left their hometowns every year, and they don't know how to deal with it, and it is also the helplessness of being a child, the husband wants to go back to his mother-in-law's house, and the wife wants to go back to her parents' house, so who will the child go home with?
In response to this question, everyone is really confused, because the wife's parents are also parents, and the husband's parents are also parents, and the most sinful thing is who the child will go home with for the New Year? To such a question, sociology professors have finally answered.
The sociology professor said that there is nothing wrong with the Spring Festival of the "husband and wife separation type", and it is recommended that the man take the children back to his mother-in-law's house, and the woman goes back to her parents' house alone. The professor's words instantly ignited the dream person, causing an uproar on the Internet, and everyone said that the sociology professor was more reliable than most experts.
From sociology, the professor means that the child should go back to his mother-in-law's house with his father, which means that he favors the woman, and let the woman go back to her mother's house alone to nag and nag her mother's family, after all, from the beginning to the end of the year, it is the woman who takes the child and does housework.
It's better to meet a man who knows how to feel sorry for his wife, but if he meets a big lazy worm, he will really cry and cry, so from the perspective of a sociology professor, it is for a hard year, and the majority of mothers take an annual leave to go back to their parents' house and talk about homely things.
Yao Huasong, a professor at the Department of Sociology at Guangzhou University, said: "As long as the man and the man's family are reasonable enough, and the relationship between the husband and wife is good, the man should express full understanding, respect and even encouragement for the woman to return to her parents' home for the New Year." ”
The implication of the professor's voice is that when the wife goes home for the New Year, the husband and the in-laws need to be reasonable, respectful and understanding, and encourage the wife to go back to her parents' house for the New Year. At the same time, it is also necessary to have feelings between husband and wife.
If the husband is not reasonable, has never respected or understood his wife, or does not know empathy, it is estimated that it will be difficult.
And Miss Li in Guangzhou has already eaten the first big crab, she and her husband have been married for 6 years, and they have returned to their respective homes for 4 consecutive years to celebrate the New Year. In fact, this is also very good, but it always feels like something is missing, and the family does not have a Chinese New Year's Eve dinner together, and it will feel special and awkward.
But compared to not wanting to go back to her mother-in-law's house to make a fuss, assuming that conditions permit, it is still very recommended that the woman can also go back to her parents' house alone for the New Year, I don't know if you have a feeling that once you go back to your mother-in-law's house for the New Year, you are really busy and have no time for the New Year.
As long as you go back to your in-laws' house, you can do anything, and all housework such as cooking and washing vegetables will not be left behind. But going back to my parents' house is different, going back to my parents' house to sit and wait for food, and then go to watch the fireworks after eating.
The gap is still very large, and it is recommended to go back to your parents' house to enjoy the fun of the New Year, after all, you will know more relatives and friends in your mother's house. But it may not be at the in-law's house, I haven't been back once a year, and I don't have much intersection with my in-laws' neighbors or relatives, so the woman is indeed happier when she goes back to her parents' house for the New Year than when she goes back to her mother-in-law's house.
Some people also say, why can't children go back to their parents' homes with their mothers? Yes, for some mothers-in-law, it doesn't matter if what they want to see during the New Year is their son, grandson, or daughter-in-law. The contradiction between many couples who don't go home for the New Year is also this "why don't you go home for the New Year, and don't bring your children back to meet the elderly".
But it's the same when the woman goes back to her parents' house, her granddaughter, her grandchildren don't take her back to her parents' house, and her family will give the woman a face, and the old man wants to see his granddaughter and grandchildren, okay, run back by himself, and the children won't bring any of them back, so that the old man will be happy.
The child is still reluctant to leave his parents after he has the ability, and the mother is also worried about the child. The mother's family should have been very happy that their daughter went back to visit them. But the ancients said that they were idle and had nothing to do, and they sometimes teased their little grandchildren, saying that the old people had nothing to do, and they liked to tease their grandchildren even more. Therefore, the old man prefers children, but if he goes back without taking the children back, he will definitely suffer from the eyes of his mother's family.
There are also people who say that they can't stay at their parents' house for a minute, and they don't want to go back to their parents' house at all, because in her opinion, her mother-in-law's house is more comfortable and free, even the air is free, no matter what she does, no one will stop her, and it is really difficult to stick her head out and breathe a breath of air in her mother's house.
From what this netizen said, her mother's family treated her very badly, but her mother-in-law's family was obedient to her, and she could be regarded as marrying a good husband and meeting a good mother-in-law. It's not easy!
It is recommended that the child follow his mother, because the mother goes back to the mother's house, the father also goes back to the mother's house, and the New Year is looking for his mother, so the child should also follow the mother.
That is to say, each goes back to his own house and finds his own mother. Attaboy! Some people also said that they hadn't been back to their hometown for a long time, and suddenly they went back to their hometown and found that many old people in the village were gone, and the neighbors who were the same age as their parents were also old, and the children on the road didn't know whose family it was!
When I was a child, I was a familiar face, and now when I grow up and walk around the village, they all think that I came from other places, but in fact, I am the one who grew up in this village.
The saddest thing is not that "children don't know each other, laughing and asking where the guests come from." Rather, "the rusty lock of the remnant door has not been opened for a long time, the gray brick path is covered with dry moss, and the nameless withered grass has invaded the courtyard, and a bitterness has entered the throat." I suddenly remembered that the high hall was there, and I also used to burn the pot table with the stove. I feel that I am now invisible, and no one at home talks about my feelings. "If you have money or no money to go home for the New Year, I wish you all a safe and smooth journey.