Should the child be taken by the mother in law?

Mondo Parenting Updated on 2024-02-01

As we all know, the family is a child's first school, and parents are their child's first teacher. However, with the acceleration of the pace of modern society, many young parents are unable to take care of their children full-time due to work and other reasons, and at this time, the help of the older generation is particularly important. However, the mother-in-law with the child also raises a series of problems. So, should the child be brought by the mother-in-law?

First of all, from the perspective of traditional culture, it is natural for a mother-in-law to take her grandson. In traditional Chinese culture, the family is a very important social unit, and grandparents often take on the responsibility of caring for their grandchildren. This kind of intergenerational education also has its own unique advantages, such as rich parenting experience, patience and a warm family atmosphere.

For example, in the TV series "Golden Wedding", Wen Li's mother-in-law is a typical Chinese housewife, who used her rich life experience and life wisdom to successfully help Wen Li raise several children to grow up**. In the play, the mother-in-law not only helped Wen Li take care of the children's daily life, but also gave a lot of useful suggestions and guidance on educating the children. Mother-in-law plays an integral role in the child's growth.

However, we can't ignore the problems that a mother-in-law can bring with a child. First of all, the older generation may have a different concept of education than the younger parents. Due to the different backgrounds of the times, it is inevitable that the two generations will have differences in the concept of parenting. For example, older generations may pay more attention to traditional ethics and values, while younger parents may pay more attention to their children's personality development and innovation skills. This difference in perception can lead to tension in the parent-child relationship and even affect the child's development.

In addition, over-reliance on the mother-in-law to take care of the children may also affect the relationship between the couple. When both spouses are busy with work or self-development, the division of labor in the family naturally falls on the grandparents. However, this dependence can lead to a gradual increase in the distance between couples and even affect each other's feelings. In the TV series "Little Huanxi", Fang Yuan and Tong Wenjie are busy with work, and their children have been taken care of by their grandparents for a long time. Despite the great dedication of the grandparents, this family model still puts a lot of pressure on the couple's relationship.

So, in the face of these problems, should we oppose mother-in-law taking children? Of course not. The key lies in how to find a balance that can not only give full play to the experience and wisdom of the older generation, but also adapt to the needs of the development of modern society. Young parents should fully respect the contributions and experiences of the elderly, and at the same time have the courage to put forward their own opinions and educational ideas. When encountering disagreements, both parties should communicate to find the best solution.

In addition, young parents should also take on their own responsibilities as much as possible and not leave their children completely in the care of the elderly. Spend more time with your children after work and establish a close parent-child relationship with your children. At the same time, you can also continue to improve your parenting skills and education methods through learning and practice. This can not only ensure the healthy growth of children, but also maintain the harmony and happiness of the family.

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