The arrival of a child is undoubtedly a huge challenge for new parents, especially in the first few months of the child's life, which requires more care and attention. However, sometimes even after experiencing the assistance of a confinement nanny, parents still feel exhausted. Just like my daughter and son-in-law did last night, they took their children all night and both were exhausted. Let's take a look at their experiences.
A few days before the birth of the baby, I accompanied my daughter and son-in-law to spend the baby's first arrival in the hospital. For the next few days, the confinement lady took care of the children while I went home to rest. However, after the confinement sister-in-law left last night, the son-in-law took the initiative to say that they would take care of the children themselves. As a result, they had a hard time all night. The son-in-law said that the child would poop one moment and breastfeed the next, while the daughter kept crying. They felt unable to sleep and said that such days would be very hard in the future. The son-in-law even said that he could not return the product, and the daughter also complained that it was too troublesome to have a child and regretted it. I can't help but remind them that the arrival of a child means taking responsibility and no longer being able to play and rest as much as they want. Although they had said that they would learn to take care of their children, they were already unable to do anything after the night had passed. I gently told them that having a child is about effort and responsibility, and that they can't be as free as they used to be. The daughter comforted her son-in-law and said that she would help take care of the children during the day, and as long as she could have a good rest at night. The child's well-behaved moments are unforgettable, but once they start crying and pooping, the son-in-law learns to change the child's diaper, while the daughter is afraid of such things and resolutely avoids them. She asks if the child will not poop, which is a bit ignorant. I told her that it was not normal for the child to just drink milk and not poop, and that she still needed to go to the hospital for a checkup. Today's young people are really focused on having children and ignore the importance of taking care of them. The son-in-law and daughter were overwhelmed by the overnight care, and they even came up with the idea of taking the child away as soon as possible tonight.
Shortly after giving birth, my daughter's in-laws and her eldest sister came to the house. They were very happy to see the children, and the dinner party ended at 12 o'clock in the evening. After eating, everyone chatted for a while, and before they knew it, it was already past 2 o'clock in the morning. The son-in-law hurriedly reminded everyone that they should rest early. After the child finished drinking, the son-in-law was ready to burp the child, but the aunt of the in-laws said not to toss the child, the child was already fine, and there was no need to do this. With so many people with children, the situation becomes chaotic. The child's buttocks were a little red, and I suggested applying some talcum powder before, but my daughter insisted that the hip cream was better. And the confinement lady said that it was okay. This left me in a dilemma, not knowing who to listen to. My child slept with me at night, and my daughter was worried that I wouldn't be able to control the amount of milk, so I told her to rest assured that it would be good to leave it to me. If they don't feel at ease themselves, then they can take care of the children themselves, but my daughter doesn't want to take care of the children completely, and I'm worried that I won't be able to take care of them. As a grandmother, won't I do my best to take care of my grandson? After the in-laws came, the son-in-law proposed to let his mother wipe the child's buttocks, but his mother said that she had not even done anything about her two children and would not do this. The child is hungry and wants to **, in order to avoid embarrassment, the son-in-law is embarrassed to let his mother and aunt feed. So, the son-in-law warmed the milk in the bottle himself and let the child drink it. My aunt kept persuading my daughter to hold the baby and breastfeed, and I saw that my daughter was a little unhappy, and my son-in-law hurriedly asked his mother and aunt to go to bed early.
In the afternoon, only my daughter and I were at home, and my son-in-law went to the airport to pick up his parents. I was resting in the bedroom for a while, and suddenly I heard my daughter shouting for me to come over quickly, and the child was urinating. After a while, he told me to hurry up again, and the child pulled. She was still unfamiliar with the work of nursing her children, and she was tired every time she fed. After one night, their energy was exhausted. What if no one helps?
Every new parent goes through the dilemma of bringing up a child, especially in the first few months of the child's birth. Even with outside help and support, caring for a child can be a daunting task. In this process, the intervention of relatives may bring more contradictions and strife. However, as elders in the family, we should try our best to help and understand the confusion and exhaustion of new parents. At the same time, new parents also need to keep learning and adapting, only in this way can they better take care of their children's growth. Let's face this challenge together and trust that time will change everything for the better.