"Marriage is the grave of love, but without marriage, love will die and have no place to be buried. Mr. Qian Zhongshu's words are like a double-edged sword, revealing the complex entanglement between marriage and love.
In reality, many men are looking for another emotional solace outside the siege of marriage. But why are extramarital relationships often unsustainable? Today we will take a look at the reasons.
1. Extramarital love: an emotional barrier that is difficult to overcome.
In the busy city life, the story of Mr. Li and Ms. Lin is quietly staged. Mr. Li is a successful entrepreneur and has been married to his wife for 10 years. However, during a business event, he met the young and energetic Ms. Lin. The two quickly developed a deep friendship that gradually developed into an unspeakable emotion.
However, as time went on, Mr. Li began to feel the stress and confusion of extramarital affairs. He not only enjoyed his time with Ms. Lin, but also could not let go of his deep relationship with his wife. The inner struggle made him miserable, and he finally chose to end the affair.
This is not an isolated case. Many men face similar emotional barriers when courting women outside of marriage. They crave novelty and excitement, but they also struggle to shake the guilt they feel about their family and their wives. This kind of inner contradiction and struggle often makes it difficult to last extramarital love.
2. Social pressure: the invisible shackles of extramarital love.
In the glamorous social circle, Mr. Zhang was once the envy of everyone. However, the ** of an extramarital affair discredited him. Friends distanced themselves from him, and even his partners, who once respected him, gave him a cold eye. What makes him even more sad is that his family is also suffering because of this.
Mr. Zhang's experience is not unique. In real life, many men are burdened with heavy social pressures because of extramarital affairs. Their actions are labelled as "disloyalty" and "betrayal", which not only damages their reputation, but also threatens to lose the support of friends and family. Under this invisible shackle, extramarital affairs are often difficult to maintain.
3. The personal experience of netizens: a true portrayal of extramarital love.
The following is from the oral description of netizens.
I've also experienced extramarital affairs firsthand. It was by chance that I met a passionate and charming woman, and we quickly fell in love. However, as time went on, I began to feel the guilt and guilt that came with having an affair. I knew I had betrayed my family and my wife, and I couldn't let go of the guilt.
After some inner struggle, I finally chose to end the affair and return to my family. This experience made me deeply realize the torment and torment of extramarital affairs on men's hearts. It also makes me cherish and appreciate my existing married life even more.
Extramarital love, like brilliant fireworks, is short and beautiful. However, behind it lies insurmountable emotional barriers, social pressures, and inner guilt and struggles. The combination of these factors makes extramarital affairs often difficult to last.
For a man in marriage, cherishing the person in front of him and protecting his family is the most important thing.
And those men who linger outside of marriage, please also remember: love is not easy, marriage is even more difficult.
While pursuing novelty and excitement, don't forget your original intention and cherish your existing happiness and destiny.
May we all manage and maintain our love and marriage with our hearts, so that the best scenery in life can bloom.
I'm Nini, an emotion researcher, interpreting emotions and answering your questions with words. May my words turn into light and bring you warmth and strength.