In recent years, the term family of origin has been very popular.
Many people have finally reconciled with themselves, because some of the suffering has finally found its roots. And they themselves are nothing more than hosts of all sorts of outcomes.
Seeing the entanglement of the fate of several generations of mothers and daughters in "Fireworks People", I really want to say a word at this point:
Don't dump the original family, life is not a long trip for light-phobic
If we investigate the root cause of everything, the source of life will be endless.
From Li Yijin's point of view, it can be said that the person who first affected her and made her suffer was her mother. It was her mother who was prostrate in a "lame" marriage and mistook her for the rest of her life.
Since then, Li Yijin's words and deeds have been closely watched. After the hope that Jackie Chan failed, Meng Mingwei couldn't help but interfere in her life strongly.
Indeed, in the long plot of "Fireworks People", Meng Mingwei's mother is very hateful.
It also resonated with many people for a time. Just like the parents who forced us to do all kinds of things when we were children in our memories, they made their own decisions when they couldn't preach, and instantly shattered the paradise we had built for ourselves.
Those pieces of fragments were hidden in the smoke of gunpowder that had to be silenced, dragging many people into a nightmare like Li Yijin.
But,Is the cause planted by parents the fruit of their children?
Li Yijin's pain, should Meng Mingwei, a mother who is good at forbearance, take the blame?
When Meng Mingwei's mother stood up and revealed the truth about her marriage back then, she realized how self-deceptive she was to linger.
Li Chengzhi, who once beat and scolded her and made her almost have a miscarriage, really wasted an honest and honest sheepskin in vain.
If the root of Li Yijin's pain lies in her mother Meng Mingwei, then what about Meng Mingwei?
In the eyes of her mother Qiao Haiyun, she is the kindest of the three sisters.
She wants to live a good life, who can she have any bad intentions for anyone?Not to mention her daughter Li Yijin.
It stands to reason that under the protection of Qiao Haiyun, Meng Mingwei's life should not be like this. Isn't the root family in the family of origin?
In Meng Mingwei's eyes, her original family is good enough, and she has received a lot of warm care.
Even if Qiao Haiyun missed for a while and accidentally lured the wolf Li Chengzhi to Meng Mingwei's side, Meng Mingwei himself should have enough tenacity to get rid of nightmares and pursue the life he yearns for.
A good original family, won't it make people have more confidence to persevere?
Meng Mingwei's leg is lame, and his heart is also lame?
She knew what her marriage was like, and she had already died. All his thoughts were pinned on Li Yijin, but it was self-defeating, and no matter how he looked at Li Yijin, he felt unpleasant.
Under marriage, the change of her thoughts comes from herself, and there is no one else.
Qiao Haiyun planted a cause for her, but it was not the result she finally suffered. At least not all.
The original family used to be an umbrella, sheltering us from the wind and rain, and at the same time, it would inevitably tie us to one side of the world.
The light outside the umbrella is too bright, and it is easy to make people yearn for it.
Just like Li Yijin, he is eager to get out but afraid of losing. Our parents have never brought us more than just shadows.
If it wants to get to the root of the fault, it can't take much responsibility. Because as children, the moment we become aware of the problem, the power of choice is transferred to our own hands.
The original family has glory and burden.
Similarly, there is closeness and autonomy between parents and children.
Can't restrain the yearning, the distant journey of the light-phobic is a joke.
If you attribute all the pain to your family of origin, you will find that it is an endless black hole.
Joy scabbed inside, and the angry curse turned into sand.
In the case of my parents, they are actually very willing to take the blame for their children, and they can see many of their own shortcomings more after middle age.
However, adults need to learn to take responsibility for their own lives. In the past, even if there was sand and stones, the warm sun could not be buried.
If there is flying sand on the road of yearning, we must not only learn to let ourselves come out, but also slowly assume the heavy responsibility of mutual redemption.
The water and soil of the original family can neither give long-term irrigation, nor block the light that comes from all directions.
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