On the evening of January 20th, I watched the "If You Are Honest, Do Not Disturb" French special, and the third male guest was born in Gansu, has worked in France for many years, and has more contact with red wine, and looks like a mature man with a successful career.
In the interactive session, he invited several female guests to the stage to taste red wine. Originally, it was a common practice to show off what he was good at, but he didn't know how to control the duration and pace, and finally the lights went out. The program team also felt that he showed too much, and the picture was broadcast in a rare fast-forward way, but it still made the audience bored.
The display of personal talents or expertise must observe whether the female guests, hosts, and audiences are interested, otherwise what they think is good will make others feel boring, which is a waste of time and a taste.
If you want to succeed hand in hand, the first thing is to make people feel that you have character, appearance, ability, and strength, that is, you have good overall qualities in spirit, material and other aspects; Secondly, you have to be interesting, interesting includes many aspects, first of all, it must be attractive, so that people feel very comfortable and pleasant with you; Third, we must "not forget the original intention and keep the mission in mind", you are here for a blind date, not to recruit or apply, nor to participate in debates, and you can't go off topic while talking.
In real life, some people are not good at communication, and a few words make people speechless, which is what we often say "talk to death".
There are also people who seem to be talkative, but they don't know how to interact, and they don't pay attention to whether others are involved in your topic, whether they are interested, and they are looking forward to you talking. In the end, it became a personal speech, and others were already playing with their phones.
I often watch "If You Are Honest, Do Not Disturb", my wife always says that my age is no longer suitable for this show, and I should go to see Hubei Economic Television's "Peach Blossoms", which is a blind date program for middle-aged and elderly people.
In fact, I don't think "If You Are Honest, Do Not Disturb" is not for blind dates, but for a talk show, on the one hand, you can understand the current situation and mentality of young people, and on the other hand, you can learn to communicate with others and make progress in emotional intelligence. Because I am also a person with low emotional intelligence, I seem to know a lot, and when I talk endlessly, it is easy to turn into a personal speech in the end. What I have learned from "Do Not Disturb" is that in everything you do, especially in the process of communicating with people, you must "not forget your original intention, keep your mission in mind", know how to control the rhythm and progress, and say long things that should be expanded, and short things that should be done until the point, and free retraction is the highest state.