The ancients said that it is better to die poor than to marry a wife, what does it mean to have a wife?
In the apostle year, the white head returned, the old mother was looking under the corridor, and the wife was hanging the curtain. This situation is unprecedented and rare in the world"。
Therefore, there is in the eyes of the world"A natural companion"said. Why did the ancients say"It's better to marry a new wife than to die poor"？What kind of woman does the wife represent that the locals reject her so much?
What is a biological chaperone?
Since Li Ling is very specific in the book of Hui Fuwu, we can clearly know that the name is"Shengwu"The man was actually his young wife.
Li Ling said to Su Wu: I went to the Xiongnu in the prime of life, and I will not come back unless I am old, my mother is dead, and my young wife remarries. This is a rare wonder in the world, unheard of in ancient times.
In the end, Li Ling did not choose to return to the Han Dynasty, and his guilt for his mother and wife is something that many people can understand.
But it's really hard to understand,"Brute wife"The term has always been circulated among the people, and it has become more and more hated with the advent of the feudal era.
In the ancient world, a woman had to go from being a wife to a biological mother because she had done something wrong. Otherwise, men have little reason to reject them, and once this superficial notion is deeply rooted, the wives will have nothing to say for the rest of their lives.
The most luxurious treatment of one's own wife in ancient China was that of the famous thinker Zeng Zi. Although she did not go down in history, her heroic deeds were talked about by future generations.
Zeng Zi came home after a tiring day and found that the rice cooked by his wife was a little hard, so he angrily brought the rice back to his parents' house.
Modern people would never dare to imagine such a situation. People think that Zeng Zi is making a big fuss, which shows how serious the influence of the old social environment is on the thinking of the elderly.
Fortunately, Zeng Zi said: If you can't even do this little thing, what else can you do, otherwise his wife really can't even jump into the Yellow River.
If anyone else guesses: I really don't know how to explain it.
The harm of rumors never diminishes with the passage of time. Good words are warm in three winters, and bad words are hurtful and cold in June. In ancient history, all the couples who were rumored to be good stories had unfortunate lives far beyond the imagination of later generations.
But the people of the past are still paranoid, yes, why"Punishment"。So, they chose death over marriage to show their will and win the praise of others.
Why is it better to die poor than to get married?
Of course, men with the above ideas are in the minority after all. As for why they would rather die than marry their biological wives, the main reasons lie in the following aspects.
One of them is the fear of rumors that a woman's second marriage is rebellious and unforgivable.
If you don't see each other for a day, you will feel that someone is behind your back and dares to contact your wife.
Not only that, but a widow is better than a biological wife. Widows become widows because their husbands have died and they have no choice but to continue to be widows. Her husband is still alive. Some arrogant ancients thought that if"Me"Abandoned by others,"Me"is not worthy.
When the poor die, the poor die, and it is better not to get married.
Secondly, because someone else's husband is still alive, the natives do not dare to cause trouble, even if their wives are as beautiful as they are.
Here's a simple example: once upon a time, a general was guarding the border, and his wife was actually his own wife, but he couldn't take her away.
If the woman at this time been"Provocation"When she returns, her husband will inevitably quarrel. No matter who wins or loses, women become nuisances.
In the past, instead of thinking about their own problems, some men blamed women for their problems, persuading them not to be angry and to quiet them.
The third point is the fear that women do not respect moral values and do things that are degrading to the family. If the first two points are still there"Reason"Then the last point is complete nonsense.
However, no one can change the cognitive limitations of older adults. They believe that the biological partner has done something degrading to the family because of a character problem"Normal"Target.
The biological mother's wife, who made all sorts of inferences based on speculation alone, was once again affected. It is a pity that in the old feudal society, even if you want to make up for it, there is not much chance.
Suicide can perhaps also be summed up as:"Fear of crime"。The ignorance and arrogance of the times completely sealed the last exit.
Fortunately, these words do not apply in modern society. Everyone can be generous, especially in a society where men and women are equal.
Surprisingly, weddings nowadays seem to have gone to the other extreme. In the past, divorce or rejection of marriage was always a major event that decided a person's fate, but now, divorce or rejection of marriage seems to have become commonplace.
Once upon a time, slow trains, slow letters, and one's love were enough to sustain a lifetime. And now? I don't know if it's better in the past or better in the modern era.