Foreword: Gift money is a common traditional custom in weddings. In our country, when getting married, relatives and friends will give the newlyweds a certain amount of money as blessings and support, which not only represents the joy and celebration of relatives and friends to the newlyweds, but also symbolizes the sophistication of the people who exchange gifts. However, an experience shared by the parties has triggered many people's thinking and discussion: the 500 yuan gift money for classmates was ignored by classmates when they got married, and then through resolute recovery, it caused a series of controversies and social issues. Behind this is the change of human feelings and the change of values...
Seven years ago, the client's graduate student got married, and as a classmate and friend, she blessed and gave a gift of 500 yuan, spending her precious money. In her young and simple heart, it was an expression of friendship and affection, as well as a traditional exchange of courtesies. She thought she could receive such a heart. However, the rewards that have been waiting for many years have not appeared, but have been ignored and ignored again and again.
Recalling that time, it is difficult for the person concerned to hide his disappointment and anger. She tried to communicate with her classmates in detail, but received only vague answers and silent helplessness. Why did the friendship and family affection of the year become so indifferent and forgetful? How much is left of that beautiful friendship? In this material-dominated social age, does gift money still represent inner sincerity and meaning?
I conducted a small survey on this issue. The results show that nearly 80 percent of the respondents believe that the exchange of gifts is reciprocal and should be reciprocated, while the remaining less than 20 percent believe that the gift money only represents a blessing and festivity, and should not be pursued. At this point, we can see that people's attitudes towards the exchange of gifts are diverse and complex.
Recently, it was the turn of the parties to get married. According to custom, she invited her graduate students to the wedding, and at the same time expected that the other party would be able to give a blessing and gifts. However, the person concerned received an embarrassing reply: the classmate said that because he was pregnant, it was inconvenient to attend, so he only sent a text blessing and did not take the initiative to return the gift.
As you can imagine, a deep sense of loss hangs over her. She couldn't understand why the classmates in question could endure her ignorance and forgetfulness, while she had to endure the relentless memories and disappointments. In her opinion, it was not just a wedding, but also a test of friendship and family affection. As classmates and friends, Sui Li is not only an exchange of money, but also a commitment and cherishment of each other's feelings.
In the face of the indifference and neglect of the classmates, the parties took out a screenshot of the transfer to the other party when the classmates got married, so as to ask the classmates to return the gift money of the year. This act is domineering, and with the power of evidence and memory, she forces her classmates to admit their past inadequacy and indifference, while also bravely defending her dignity and friendship.
However, the occurrence of this incident has caused controversy among many netizens. Some netizens expressed support for the behavior of the parties, believing that the gift money is a conventional behavior, and the two parties should be fair and reciprocal, and the behavior of the parties is to maintain and respect friendship. However, there are also some netizens who disagree, they believe that favors cannot be taken into account, and the exchange of gifts should be a sincere expression, not just a transaction and a request for returns.
From this small incident, it is not difficult for us to see the changes in human feelings and values in the world. In contemporary society, many traditional customs and ideas have gradually evolved, and more and more people have begun to pursue sincerity and individuality. In this social age, the colors of hypocrisy and utilitarianism deepen, and people gradually moved away from brotherhood and selfless friendship.
However, whether it is traditional or modern, gift money as a traditional custom still exists, and the spirit of exchange of gifts is also an important part of human sophistication. We can see that in many weddings, the blessings and gifts of relatives and friends are so important and precious. Therefore, in such a traditional and emotional context, the behavior of the parties to recover the gift money is also understandable and acceptable.
As a bystander, I also thought about such wedding customs. Gift money, whether for the giver or the recipient, represents an emotion and blessing to others. In my opinion, the exchange of gifts is not only an exchange of money, but also an exchange of emotions and sincere expression between people.
However, in the current social context, do we need to revisit and reshape this traditional practice? Or should we focus more on genuine and emotional communication with others, rather than just a piece of paper? In this sense, the act of recovering the gift money of the year is a reflection and criticism of this traditional custom.
Whether it is the recovery of the gift money or the thinking about the wedding customs, it has triggered people's thinking and discussion about the sophistication and sincere expression of human feelings. Perhaps, we need to find a balance and harmony in such disputes. The exchange of gifts is not an exchange of money and goods, but an expression and respect for the feelings of others. In contemporary society, we should pay more attention to the real emotional communication with others, as well as respect and value for others.
Different people will have different opinions and opinions on the practices of the parties. Some will support her for bravely defending her dignity and friendship, while others will think that she is too calculating and demanding. Either way, everyone has their own way of life and values. We should respect and understand the choices of others, and also find our own lifestyle and values in such disputes.
In life, gift money is a way to express emotions and blessings, and gift exchange is a kind of echo and cherishment of each other's feelings. Whether it is the giver or the recipient, we should cherish such traditional customs, and at the same time pay attention to sincere communication with others, as well as respect and care for each other. As the saying goes: "Friendship is in the heart, mutual respect and love; Gifts are still exchanged, and affection is innocent. ”