Text: Minsheng Weekly
As we age, many people often feel physically and mentally exhausted. Most of the time, this tiredness is not because of bad circumstances, but because of being obsessed with many things, and I can't forget the successes and failures, joys, angers, sorrows, and joys and sorrows.
Zhuangzi said: "Knowing right and wrong, the heart is also suitable." "Only by forgetting the rights and wrongs of the past can we live freely and leisurely. Life is like a calendar, cherish every moment, and live every day in front of you is precious.
When people reach middle age, they can learn to "turn the page" in order to get better and better.
Forget about successes and failures, and travel lightly
Occasionally, I will see some people in life, who are "brave back then" when they open their mouths, living in the glory of the past; There are also some people who can't get out of the trouble of failure because of a momentary disappointment and a small mistake, and they are depressed.
Life is a long journey, with gains and losses, successes and failures, ups and downs, which is the norm. Whether it is "brave" or "cowardly" back then, it is an experience of life, and there is no need to linger.
In a talk show, there was a topic about "outlook on life", and actor He Bing said a sentence from the writer Tolstoy: "No matter how great a writer is, he is just writing about his personal one-sidedness." He Bing said that when he heard this sentence for the first time, he felt a piece of relief in his heart.
Whether in art or in life, the most rare thing is to know when to stop.
The successes and failures of the past, the bleak scenery, have all passed, instead of indulging in entanglement, it is better to grasp the present and cultivate yourself.
If you don't fall in love in the past, you can move forward bravely; Only by strengthening oneself can we have a better future.
Forgive others for their injuries and free yourself
We helped someone, and the other person may soon forget; But if you step on someone, you may always remember it, so many people will be haunted by such injuries and remember the past. As everyone knows, those who stare into the abyss will eventually be swallowed up by darkness. The more resentment there is, the more miserable life will be.
"True tolerance is not to forgive others, but to let oneself go. "Many times, what really makes me miserable is not the harm given by others, but the shackles that I give myself. Only by being a man can we be happier when we look a little brighter.
It may be difficult to accept "forgiveness" for past hurts, but you can't help but let go.
As the saying goes, look down on the vicissitudes of the world, and the heart is safe and sound. In a short but precious life, the most important thing is to maintain a happy mindset.
Caigen Tan has a saying: "Don't blame the villain, don't give people privacy, don't think about people's old evils, the three can cultivate virtue, but also far harm." ”
To let go of other people's faults is to be kind to yourself, those unbearable past events have left us scarred and suffered, but no matter what, the past has always become the past. What we need is to let go of ourselves and keep moving forward.
It's not an escape, it's a real maturity.
Adjust your mentality, and the future can be expected
When people reach middle age, they will have countless stress and tiredness on their bodies.
When encountering things, there are emotional low-tide periods, and it also takes time to resolve, and there needs to be a process of acceptance and adaptation, but don't indulge in emotions for too long, don't be depressed for this, and don't give up on yourself, but learn to adjust your mentality and start again.
People with a good attitude will regard all kinds of difficulties and despair inflicted on them as a kind of experience. It's not that they're not sad, it's that they know that instead of spending their time worrying about the future and being dissatisfied with the status quo, it's better to adjust their mindset and deal with it positively.
Life is unsatisfactory, ten of the **. If you encounter any unhappy thing, you have to get angry, entangle, and compete with yourself, and eventually you will be kidnapped by bad emotions.
We must learn to constantly adjust ourselves, and then face all kinds of trials and challenges that life gives us with a positive and optimistic attitude.
In fact, it is not terrible to fall from **, to get up from the place where you fell, and to continue a new day and journey, which is truly commendable. Don't think about the past, don't be afraid of the future, learn to let go of the past, and face the future with hope.
Life is like a book, and a wonderful story can only continue when you turn the page.
Anchor: Baisha.
He used to be the director and column dubbing of Henan TV's "Yushang in the World", a big girl who likes to use her voice to communicate with the world.
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