On the fourth day of the first lunar month, just after the 4th day of the New Year, it is my cousin's birthday.
Our family also took advantage of this day to have a big party, full of 3 tables of people, very lively.
But because of a red envelope, the interest was swept away.
My cousin is married far away from Xinjiang, and this year for the first time I brought my son home for the New Year, and everyone was very happy.
After the meal, my cousin began to give red envelopes to the children, and every child happily said a lot of auspicious words before receiving the red envelopes; But my cousin's 6-year-old son didn't say a word, reached over with one hand, grabbed the red envelope and began to open it.
Before the cousin could calm down, the little boy shouted:"How is it only two hundred? Mom, didn't you say there was a big red envelope? What does two hundred mean, it's too stingy. ”
My cousin's face turned red all of a sudden, and she hurriedly pulled her son and said, "You don't have to give me this red envelope, you can buy candy yourself." Then he said to the relatives who were pretending to be calm in the room"Children are innocent, but their brains speak, hehehe......”
But during the meal, I obviously saw her son take a bite of the dish he didn't like and put it back on the plate, but my cousin didn't stop it, and still helped her son pick out the favorite piece in the bowl.
Grandma said, "You can't do this, your mother was beaten with chopsticks when she was a child."
But my cousin said, "The child is still young, so it would be nice to be older." The cousin-in-law only symbolically criticized the child twice.
At the end of the day, my cousin's son acted as a demon several times, obviously he didn't know how to be polite and unruly, but he was regarded as innocent by his cousin.
Because they are all relatives and family members with the same blood, and they are not their own children, everyone can only smile and remain silent.
For most of the day, I seemed to see the life of a little boy, and then I turned my head to look at my daughter, and once again determined that the word "upbringing" was really too important for a child.
For children, there must be love, but there must be too much doting, and there must be few rules.
Love and rules go hand in hand, which is the best tutor for a family.
If you don't set rules for your children when they're young, it's hard to correct them when they're older. As a parent, you need to lead by example while reminding your children of the importance of rules.
If you don't have good conduct, how can you be excellent?
No matter how smart your brain is and how good your grades are, it's not good.
To tell the truth, a family without rules is more terrible than poverty.
If you can't see your child's fault because of love, and you are reluctant to educate your child, then society will educate him fiercely.
How many high-achieving students who graduated from colleges and universities in the news, because they were spoiled since childhood, went out into the eyes of no one in society, and finally died well.
There are also spoiled 58-year-old giant babies who are still gnawing on 80-year-old mothers, who have never worked and earned a penny in their lives.
Three-year-olds look big, seven-year-olds look old.
There are some rules that you don't teach your child, no one will teach him, this "house rule", please parents must let their children remember:
1. Do your own thing.
2. Respect for elders, vulgar words and behaviors are not allowed.
3. Be honest and can't lie.
4. It doesn't matter if you make mistakes, but you can't make mistakes intentionally, and to make mistakes intentionally is to do evil; And dare to admit and accept mistakes.
5. Promise to abide by the credit and do what should be done.
6. Take the initiative to greet people when you see them, thank them for their help, apologize for doing something wrong, and use polite words on your lips.
7. Abide by social rules, do not destroy public property, do not litter, do not cut in line, etc.
8. Don't make loud noises, run or jump in public, and don't disturb others.
9. Be grateful, kind-hearted, and reach out to those in need of help in a timely manner.
10. Be reasonable, don't lose your temper; It's okay to cry if you're wronged, but it's good to cry and speak out boldly.
Parents and friends, in front of the rules, everyone is equal, and the shackles without rules are not free growth, but crooked growth;
Rules are the traffic lights on the road to growth, and if you want to be safe, you must obey the traffic rules to avoid being hit by speeding vehicles on the road.
Do you agree?