Author: Jianghu people are called Wu face.
Dreaming of enjoying the snow of thousands of mountains, looking at the sails of the four seas, and wanting to be truly comfortable, you must pass the triple level.
I'm the noisy old Wu again. Thank you for listening to my brother, let me, a person who waits for 4, also have a chance to speak, the previous essays have been liked by many friends, and of course I have been scolded a lot. Haha, don't argue, don't argue, don't argue, understand naturally, and if you don't approve, I'm putting p. Based on this reason, I would like to talk about the pain points of the growth of people with disabilities, and dedicate it to those disabled friends who have aspirations and dreams.
The three mountains that block the growth and development of people with disabilities are not external factors, but internal problems: inferiority, autism, and vulnerability!
Low self-esteem
Because of physical reasons, limited mobility, limited communication, low education, low ability, it is very easy to feel that you are inferior to others. Others are doubly cared for or sneered at by their caregivers, feeling that they are a burden and a burden. Therefore, low self-esteem is a very common problem, and it is almost impossible to change the hard disability, and the resulting inferiority complex cannot be changed by a few warm words of encouragement.
Autism
Autism here does not mean autism, but self-isolation. Because of low self-esteem, I feel that I am inferior to others, I feel that I will be embarrassed, and I will be looked down upon, so I might as well not go out. It's like someone said that there are about 90 million people with disabilities right now, but I don't see it normally. Isn't this nonsense? It's all hiding at home, why are you going out, let you be a monkey, be a lively watch?
Autism is a rational choice with a clear mind, and if you are not happy when you go out, it is better to hide at home. That's all right, but it often doesn't lead to good results. Because you shut yourself off in a safe world and don't communicate with the outside world. You are like a flower bone in a greenhouse, which will never grow and cannot blossom and bear fruit. It is easy for you to only talk to yourself or to similar people, so that your thinking and opinions will almost always stay in one state, and gradually become a pool of stagnant water, resulting in self-containment and not knowing how to be flexible, only looking at immediate and short-term interests, and losing the long-term view and the overall situation.
Some people say, I can communicate from the Internet. This is a channel, but the problem is that under the premise that you have not formed good values and ways of thinking, all kinds of true and false information flooded on the Internet will often bring you a more obvious negative impact. For example, the per capita income of a certain sound is more than one million, such as various course pits, and various money-making traps. To put it more bluntly, when you shop online, watch TV shows, and play games, these processes will hardly generate valuable communication. Brush short**, do you like to watch that kind of boring in-depth analysis? WeChat chat, how many friends do you have that can bring you more growth value? So a lot of times, the network is a window, but more people are used to consuming it rather than taking advantage of it.
Vulnerable
Because of low self-esteem and autism, I haven't experienced much wind and rain outside, so I have become fragile, not physically, but psychologically. For example, when able-bodied people get along or communicate with each other in daily life, they will occasionally make some jokes, but some innocent and very normal communication words are also easy to be captured by some sensitive disabled friends, and cause a series of excessive interpretations and conjectures, thinking that they are humiliating and slandering themselves. As a result, I am even more reluctant to go out and communicate with other people.
There is a saying that "the greatest respect for the disabled is not to treat them as disabled", many disabled friends do not want to receive additional care and care from others, but their fragile hearts are always vulnerable, forcing the people around them to always observe their words and be careful of their words, which has become a contradiction?
After being verbose for a long time, it is estimated that when I saw this, many disabled friends scolded in my heart, you are so good, so how can you solve it?
I'm sorry for the officials.,My ability is limited.,It's just that I can see a little problem.,Raise a little problem.,As for how to solve it, it's still @砺金石@埊 listen!
Finally, it is also valuable to ask questions under self-comfort, after all, it is now demand to guide consumption, speak out bravely, get more attention, and be more conducive to problem solving. Let's work together!