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Raising a child may be easy, but raising a child well is not a simple task. This not only requires love for the child, but also needs to have certain abilities and skills, so that the child can provide necessary help in a timely and effective manner if he encounters confusion in the process of growing up.
Children are always curious when they are young, they always have all kinds of ideas in their heads, they are curious about everything they see, they will keep asking: what is this? What is that? Why do it? Why not like that?
All kinds of questions need to be answered by parents, and through the answers of parents, they will be spliced into the world in their hearts. Some of these countless questions are easy to answer, and taking them outside or looking at a picture book will let your child know what he wants to know.
However, not all problems are so simple, some words or words with rich meanings are not so easy for children to understand, and if the explanations made by parents are not appropriate, it will cause cognitive biases in children.
For some questions, not all parents answer the same questions, but their own unique answers based on their own experiences, experiences, and experiences of life and society.
Perhaps these answers were not really understood by the child at the time, but as the child grew up and had his own life experience, he would understand the truth behind those words.
If you want your child to know more and better about the world, it is essential for parents to guide them patiently and correctly, and reading is the most effective and convenient way for parents to be competent in guiding their children.
If you're still struggling with which book to read, take a look at "To Kill a Mockingbird" by American writer Harper Lee, in which the author portrays the perfect father figure with high moral character and strict and equal treatment of his children.
His name is Atticus, he is a lawyer in his town, and after his wife died, he raised a pair of children alone, a son is ten years old, and a daughter is six years old.
But he never showed boredom with them, but taught the children all kinds of truths in the conversation, and told the children what is right and what should be done persistently.
After reading it, I not only felt the greatness of this father, but he used his words and deeds to let the children feel that he had a noble character, and inherited it. And we also learned from this father that these three concepts should be taught to children as early as possible, so that children can benefit as soon as possible.
First, change the angleGet to know someoneto understand him better and get along with people well
Atticus's daughter, Scout, is a bright and lively child who experiences some unpleasant things on her first day of school. Because the new teacher didn't know much about the peculiarities of some of the families in this town, and Scout didn't have the ability to explain it to her.
The teacher thinks Scout is deliberately causing trouble, so he slaps her in the palm and punishes her for standing, and her classmates laugh at her. She gets into a fight with a classmate, and her brother Jem invites his classmate to his home for lunch in order to ease the relationship.
Scout saw her classmate pouring a lot of syrup into the dish and wanted to stop it, but the nanny criticized her for saying that she was a guest and couldn't point fingers at the guest, and she was slapped by the nanny for her mouth.
After such a bad thing on the first day, Scout didn't want to go to school, so she asked Atticus to teach her at home. Instead of immediately dismissing her idea, Atticus patiently listened to Scout tell what had happened that day.
After listening, he understood Scout's needs before he said to Scout, ".Scout, if you learn one simple little trick, you'll be able to get along better with all of them. YouIt's never possible to really understand a person unless you see things from their point of view, unless you get into his ** and walk around like him
People live in different environments and have different educations, so it is impossible to have the same view of things. That's why each person is unique.
When looking at the same thing, there will be different understandings and different ways of dealing with it. If two people have conflicting views on this, there is also a possibility that there may be a misunderstanding that will affect the relationship between the two people.
When we are unable to understand a person's behavior, we might as well try to look at the matter from the other person's point of view, so that we can understand the reason and purpose of his behavior.
Of course, this does not mean that we always have to understand each other and ignore our own feelings, but that if we can understand each other when interacting with others, we can solve many problems invisibly.
As Atticus said: ".It is impossible for a teacher to learn how to do it in a daymIn life, we can't blame her for not knowing enough
When both parties can understand each other, they don't dwell too much on how she treats herself, because she has a reason for doing so, and she will do better when she also knows more.
2. People sometimes just have to stick to something, even if most people think it's wrong
Atticus is a lawyer and is well respected. But since he agreed to be a defense lawyer for a black man, he has been scolded by many people, including his own sister. Thinks that doing so will bring shame to the family.
But Atticus didn't back down in the face of the blame, because he knew he was doing the right thing.
Because of this incident, Scout and Jem are also bullied at school, and Atticus reasoned with them, telling them not to pay attention to other people's slander and not to fight with their classmates over this incident.
He told the child: ".There is one thing that cannot follow the herd principle, and that is the conscience of man。"He was determined to do what he thought was right, and he was willing to do it even when many people were hostile to him and threatened him.
He used his actions to make the children understand what is the right choice, and sometimes, how difficult it is to do the right thing. But no matter what, it's about doing the right thing.
IIILearn to be a truly brave person
Parents want their children to be bold and teach their children to be brave from an early age, so that they will not be bullied when they grow up. There is nothing wrong with that, but there are different standards for what constitutes bravery.
Many people associate bravery with toughness, not being afraid of people, daring to fight with others, and being able to resist when encountering injustices, which is of course a sign of bravery, but bravery is not only manifested in this.
To Kill a Mockingbird tells the story of a brave old lady. She was terminally ill and had only a few months left. She needed morphine injections because of the pain.
But when she knew she was going to die soon, she decided she wanted to go clean. So she endured the torture of illness and addiction with great courage, and finally turned herself into an innocent person and calmly walked to another world.
Atticus tells Jem that the old lady still disapproves of his defense of blacks and scolds him. But he still respected her because she was a brave person.
In the last period of the old lady, Jem has to read to the old lady every day, and the reason why Atticus asked Jem to do this is because Jem has indeed done something wrong and must be punished; On the other hand, he wanted Jem to show him what true bravery was.
In Atticus's opinion,Holding a gun doesn't necessarily mean bravery. True bravery is when you know you're going to lose before you even start, but you still have to do it, and you have to follow it through no matter what.
Before the old lady died, no matter what measures were taken to alleviate the pain, people could understand it, but the old lady endured the unbearable torture with incomparably brave faith, and finally walked without regrets, she owed no one and did not depend on anything.
In Atticus's eyes, she is the bravest of people. As he tells the story, he is also making it clear to Jem that he is also going to be a brave man, even if he knows that what he is about to do is unlikely to win, but he will still stay the course.
This is Atticus's way of educating children, he never chatters to reason with children, tells children that they should do this, should do that, but patiently listens to children's voices, gives children a little bit at important nodes, and becomes the warmest support for children.
He tries to protect his children from harm, but when children are bound to be treated unfairly because of certain things, he also asks them to be strong and work hard to withstand those hurts.
To Kill a Mockingbird is a good book, it creates the image of Atticus as a perfect father, and from Atticus we can also feel how a good father subtly educates his children in life, so that children can maintain their nature and grow up healthy and happy.
If you are still worried about how to educate your children, you might as well take a look at this book "To Kill a Mockingbird" to see how Atticus keeps children innocent, and at the same time, they will gradually grow into responsible, assertive, and right-and-wrong.
This remarkable book was published in the UK in 1960 and became an instant bestseller. In 1961, he won the Pulitzer Prize that year. In 1962, it was adapted into a movie of the same name, starring Gregory Peck, and received unanimous praise, which shows the charm of this **.