From the moment the baby is born, the mother feeds the baby, changes the diaper, sleeps ......"Electricity consumption" is rising sharply. Although this sweet burden will not be expressed, let alone say "I love you".
But when you and your baby get to know each other, you will have a vague sense that a connection is forming, which may be more meaningful than a declaration of love.
Attachment is a process. Dr. Debbie Lyle, a professor of psychology at Lehigh University, said. When you take care of your baby, he loves you more and more day by day, and says Mom, I like you the most in his own way!
Recognize your taste.
Dr. Alison Gopnik, a professor of psychology at the University of California, Berkeley, author of Philosophy Baby, said: "Within a few weeks, babies will be able to recognize their mom and dad. ”
In one study, researchers placed a breastfeeding newborn between two pads, one of which belonged to her mother. The smell of mom attracts the baby to that mat.
To do this, you need to become an expert in understanding the various cries of your baby. The more you know your baby's language, the better you can meet their needs.
Dr. Linda Gilkerson, director of the Irving Harris Baby Research Program at Erickson University, said: "When a baby is in pain, his parents react, knowing that he can rely on mom and dad for comfort and relief. ”。
Gaze into your eyes.
Babies love to stare into people's eyes, especially their mother's eyes. This affectionate gaze is an innate instinct of the baby, and the baby wants to attract the love and care of the mother in this way.
This is the beginning of every baby's expression of love for their mother, and from this moment on, they realize how important mom is to their life.
In the first month or so of birth, the baby will react to the mother's facial expressions, and the mothers will respond immediately and without thinking. Gilkerson said.
At about 4 months of age, your baby will not be able to take her eyes off you.
Smile at you. Recent research suggests that a baby's smile may mean more information.
Don't look at them smiling silly, it could be that your baby is instinctively connecting with you.
Your baby's first real social smile is around 6 to 8 weeks old. When your baby sees your face, he begins to associate your face with good feelings.
Wants to catch you.
Many mothers should experience such a situation: there is a laughing baby, suddenly with the hand to pick the mother's eyes, mouth, nose and other parts, although the baby's strength is not large, but because the facial features are more sensitive, can not resist the baby's strength.
Picking the mother with your hands is to understand the mother and get close to the mother, you must not scold the baby, and give the baby the correct response. You can hold his hand and guide the baby to gently touch his face.
Staring at you. Babies can recognize their mother's face, voice, and smell as soon as they are born. and can connect the sounds and smells he trusts with what he can see.
That's why he'll start studying your face as if he's struggling to remember it. In a way, he's making sure he knows what comfort and love look like.
Loved listening to mom's voice.
Once the baby cries, but as soon as he hears the mother's voice, he immediately quiets down, which in the eyes of us adults is a sign that the child needs to be coaxed.
Babies often listen to their mother's lullabies and can quickly fall asleep. Isn't that enough proof of how much he likes to hear you?
Love to bite mom. The baby seems to like to bite his mother very much, and after biting, he will raise his head and smirk at you with a satisfied face, making you angry and reluctant to scold him.
It's also a sign of loving you. Because for a baby, the action of "biting" is very comfortable, and he can't tell the difference between his own feelings and others, and mistakenly thinks that if he bites his mother, his mother will be equally comfortable, so he likes to bite you.
When the baby bites you, don't be angry and scold him, take his little arm and bite it gently, so that he understands that biting will hurt, and he will bite casually next time.
So when the baby has the above performances, don't be in a hurry to get angry, it's the baby saying "I love you" to you!