Text: Hu Haisheng.
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I graduated from junior high school in July 1981, and it has been 43 years since I met three times. The first and second were successful, while the third was a miscarriage party.
On August 5, 2006, we were in the 10th class of junior high school. Under the leadership of Wang Jinli, Liu Jianli and other classmates, a big reunion was held. At that time, more than 30 people gathered together, and the scene was touching.
On August 10, 2016, Wang Jinli, Liu Jianjian, Zhang Bingwen and other students organized our second reunion.
At 10 o'clock on August 10 of that year, I came to the State Guest House Hotel in this county by appointment, and about 20 students had already arrived. When everyone was greeting, a female classmate reached out and asked me if I still remembered her, and we clasped our hands and said, "You are Liu Hua!" ”
Liu Hua was an active activist when he was studying, and he used to share a table with me, and we had a deep friendship with each other. How could I not remember him? It's just that after more than 30 years, we have all changed from teenagers like flowers to old people, not a class reunion, it is difficult to recognize.
The sky is not beautiful, and the rain does not stop. It wasn't until 12 o'clock that the rain gradually subsided, and we took a group photo of the party.
After lunch at the State Guest House, the students gathered together to tell each other about the pain of lovesickness for more than 30 years, introduce each other's personal experience and their respective family situations for more than 30 years, and wish each other good health and family harmony in the coming years!
The reunion provides a platform for students to communicate. Many students said that with WeChat this time, it is more convenient to contact. Now everyone is an old man, and I hope to contact each other in the future, visit each other, and get together often, and get together in five or ten years.
Our class of 10 was enrolled in the fall of 1978 with 50 students and graduated in July 1981. The classmates have lived together for three years, most of them have not studied in high school or college, and the feelings of the classmates in these three years are very deep! In order to attend the meeting, Liu Tian had to come quickly from Gansu in the northwest, Zhang Jianmin came from the northeast, and many people came from Shanghai, Beijing, Guangzhou, and other places.
In this party, three students have left the world early, and eight students cannot attend the meeting due to their own special reasons, and the actual number of students at the party is 39.
At 6 p.m., students took their seats. Raise a glass to celebrate and laugh and cry for it, because it is enough to make us feel the friendship of a lifetime of bedmates. After dinner, some students in the urban area and students with special things at home asked to go home, and other students stayed in the county hotel. The good night is short, how can a night together tell about 35 years of lovesickness? On the morning of the 11th, the students reluctantly waved goodbye!
At the second big party, I announced that around New Year's Day 2017, all the students would be invited to my house, which was the third big party held by me, with one night and three meals.
The time was set on January 6 of that year, 10 o'clock to sign in, 12 o'clock lunch, 14 o'clock to take party photos, 17 o'clock dinner, in the evening students can catch up, can play cards, all live in my house, January 7 morning breakfast at 9 o'clock. After many contacts, more than 30 students said that they would definitely participate, and only those who were far away said that they would participate in the ...... as much as possible
So I installed a big air conditioner at home, bought more than a dozen beds, bought more than 2,000 yuan of meat, fish and dishes, hired a chef, and a photographer, and waited at home. On January 5, Zhang Jiahua said that he couldn't leave because of the work at hand, and Zhou Ming couldn't come because of illness. On the morning of January 6, five more students said that they could not take leave due to the work at hand......I thought to myself, there are nearly 30 of them. However, at 11 o'clock on the 6th of January, 14 students came.
There are more than a dozen classmates, who originally said that they were going to come, but they never saw anyone, and they urged several times, and finally decided not to come. Perhaps, the students who did not come to the reunion have forgotten the original friendship, or have seen through the class reunion.
After taking pictures, a few female classmates first asked to go home to take their children, and then Wang Li said that she would go to the bank to do some errands, rushed back for dinner, and left. There were only ten classmates at the end of the meal. After dinner, I couldn't keep anything, and finally left.
This is the class reunion I held for the miscarriage. Looking at the figures of the classmates going back, I didn't feel good in my heart.
Through this failed class reunion, I realized that there are four reasons why reunions cause miscarriages:
Clause. First, the third opportunity is too close to the second party, good students, and often have WeChat contact, and the students have no urgent desire to get together again.
Clause. Second, this party is not a holiday, and the students who go to work can't leave.
Clause. 3. It snowed heavily before New Year's Day, the temperature was low, the road was too slippery, some students who were not in good health could not come, and a large number of students could not drive, and they were worried that they would not be able to come if they had a cold.
Clause. Fourth, this point is also the most important, mainly because my identity is just an ordinary primary school teacher, whether I have the ability or not, whether I have the ability or not, and the personal appeal cannot be reached.
Sometimes, I ask myself, after 43 years of separation, is the pure friendship we had back then? I remember that when I graduated, many people wrote the words "forget-me-not" in the contact book of each other's classmates. I still remember that when we were about to break up, there were still people at my table and I who cried bitterly and were reluctant to separate.
However, in fact, time has passed, everyone's appearance and mentality have changed, and the identities and statuses between people are also different, but I don't know if the friendship of the past will still be as warm as ever? Perhaps, all the beauty is just an imagination of mine.
Another six years have passed since the third meeting. Although we have now become gray-haired and wrinkled old men, 43 years later, maybe you and I have changed our appearance and changed our lives, but the morning and twilight of the same bed are always a beautiful memory that cannot be erased.
Time, space and distance make us miss each other, cherish friendship more, call us to get together again, and hope that the fourth class reunion will be successful.
But no matter whether the fourth class reunion is miscarried or not, I will face it calmly, because no matter how deep the friendship is, it often can't withstand the coercion of reality.
Perhaps, accepting the reality calmly is the beginning of our true understanding of the word "classmate".