The taste of the years
In this hustle and bustle of the city, time flies, leaving behind the subtle and complex emotions between mother and daughter. Aunt Chen, a 61-year-old ordinary woman, seems to have been tempered by the years with a faint helplessness.
The protagonist of the story is a family dispute between Aunt Chen and her 35-year-old daughter. The daughter's anxiety and anger are not simply dissatisfied with the mother's living conditions, but also the mother's lack of understanding of her own contributions. Aunt Chen's self-blame and helplessness stemmed from her inability to adapt to the lifestyle of the younger generation.
First of all, the daughter's concern is not out of reproach, but out of concern for the quality of life of the mother. I proposed to find a cleaner so that my mother could live a more comfortable life. However, Aunt Chen chose to do it herself. This may be her overconfidence in her ability to live, and at the same time, she does not understand her daughter's care.
The daughter's fiery mood is ostensibly dissatisfied with the details of her mother's life, but in fact it is frustrated that her mother can't understand what she has paid. Her criticism and blame are not out of indifference, but from the expectation of a better life for her mother.
Aunt Chen's helpless self-blame makes people sympathetic. As she grew older, she gradually lost control of her life, and the excessive care of her children made her feel incapacitated. Her voice "I'm old, it's just useless, and I'm going to make trouble for my daughter again" expressed her inferiority complex and helplessness deep in her heart.
When her daughter was tidying up Aunt Chen's refrigerator, she found that many of the food had expired, triggering even greater anger. In order to leave delicious food for her children, Aunt Chen actually put a lot of food to expire. The daughter's strong reaction is actually a kind of incomprehension of the mother's unremitting efforts, and she does not understand that the reason why the mother is doing this is actually hoping that her children can have a better life.
Communication between mother and daughter always seems to be clouded by misunderstandings and emotional conflicts. The daughter's pickiness and Aunt Chen's speechlessness made the knot between each other even deeper. In the daughter's view, the mother is a nest person who does not know how to enjoy life; In Aunt Chen's heart, her daughter can't understand her difficult old age life of living alone.
Family is a haven of love, but it is also a touchstone of emotion. The story of Aunt Chen and her daughter may be a microcosm in many families. The anxiety and helplessness of the younger generation, and the inferiority and helplessness of the older generation, constitute the main color of this family picture.
In this story, there may be a need for more communication and understanding. The daughter must learn to empathize and understand the helplessness and hope in her mother's heart; And Aunt Chen also needs to express her thoughts and feelings more honestly, instead of silently bearing her daughter's blame.
At this time of fading years, perhaps more tolerance and understanding are needed. Mothers are not useless, but have experienced the baptism of the years, and what they need more is care and companionship, not just material care.
The ups and downs of life remind us of the preciousness of family all the time. May every family be able to create happy years together in mutual understanding and respect. Years of precipitation, family warmth.