During the Chinese New Year, people look forward to the warmth of family reunions, however, the most offensive behavior ranks first.
In life, we often fall into the whirlpool of gossip, at parties, in chats, celebrity scandals, friends divorce, and parents have become hot topics. This process of discussing and complaining seems to add a lot of fun to life. However, we should be wary of excessive talk about the privacy of those around us, which can cause harm to others and even hinder our own growth.
Lili's story is a vivid example. She was once the focus of discussion in her neighborhood, and the rumors that were woven made her haunted her hometown. This kind of excessive attention to others not only traumatized her psyche, but also left a psychological shadow on her growth path.
The lethality of rumors is huge, and those who like to gossip and spread other people's privacy may not be happy themselves. There may be frustration hidden behind this behavior, and by talking about the misfortunes of others, they try to deflect their inner anxiety and frustration. As Lili feels, rumors are not only false, but also a kind of harm, affecting the individual's mental health and attitude towards life.
From a psychological point of view, gossip may contain a frustrated projection of the talker. Unable to face their own misfortunes, they achieve a kind of self-comfort by talking about the misfortunes of others. Lili's neighbor, Aunt Li, is a vivid example of this, who has a difficult life but is keen to belittle others and escape her own predicament.
In Lili's story, we also see those silent well-wishers. They are silently supportive and genuinely concerned behind the scenes, but they are often masked by rumors and negative comments. In the face of rumors, perhaps we should pay more attention to those who quietly support us, rather than being haunted by negative statements.
To change our attitude towards rumors, we can learn from Ms. Li Songwei's experience in dealing with cyberbullying. He mentioned that cyberbullying often gives victims the illusion that "the whole world" is besieging them. Amid the cacophony, however, was more of a huge, good-natured silence. In the same way, in the face of rumors, we can also switch the focus and see more of the well-meaning silencers, who are the majority.
Perhaps, each of us should reflect on our own attitudes and emotional projections when facing gossip. When we laugh, belittle, or pity others, we are also reflecting our own inner state. Perhaps the most offensive behavior during the Chinese New Year is excessive comments and excessive discussion about the lives of others. At the moment of reunion, we can pay more attention to the kind silent people around us, transmit positive energy, and make the atmosphere of the New Year more warm and harmonious. In the sea of gossip, maintaining a tolerant and rational heart may allow us to get along better with others and enjoy this wonderful moment better.