The idea is wrong,
Resolving the crisis will only lead to a bigger crisis.
Yesterday, another Mercedes-Benz owner was on the hot search because of the retrograde.
The owner of the Mercedes-Benz drove in the opposite direction, ready to go to the front to forcibly plug it, but before he could finish the plugging, the car driving in the forward direction drove over, so it was blocked.
The owner of the Mercedes-Benz not only did not let the car driving in the forward direction, but also got out of the car and stopped in front of the car, scolding the guy who was driving in the forward direction and not letting him pass first.
The guy who was driving in the right direction argued:
You are retrograde. ”
The Mercedes-Benz owner walked to the driver's seat of the guy and went crazy:
I go against the grain, and it's my business to punish my points, and it's your business. ”
Seeing that the owner of the Mercedes-Benz was blocking in front of the car and refused to let him, the guy said that I was going to call the police.
When the Mercedes-Benz owner saw that the guy said he was going to call the police, his attitude became even more arrogant, and he yelled at the guy:
I'm afraid to call the police, let the police call me, let the police call me.
What is the end result?
He finally begged for a hammer, and the traffic police really hit him **:
A fine of 200 yuan will be demerit 3 points.
Why am I writing this hot search?
In fact, I want to say two things, both of which are easy mistakes we make in life.
First things first:
Many times, we like to use new and bigger mistakes to rescue and cover up the mistakes that have already occurred, and as a result, the mistakes are getting bigger and bigger, just like this Mercedes owner.
Why do we always like to cover up previous mistakes with bigger mistakes?
There's a reason behind this.
There is a paradox in economics called the "Ellsberg paradox".
Ellsberg, a behavioral economist, found after doing a lot of experiments:
Once most people make the wrong decision, they like to stick to the wrong choice, which is the so-called "belief in the first place", and finally lead themselves to go further and further in the wrong direction.
The so-called Ellsberg paradox is to "prove" oneself "right", constantly using a bigger mistake to cover up and save the initial mistake, and the result is "the more wrong the more evil" and "the more wrong the more arrogant", and finally lead to irreparable losses.
Why are Mercedes owners so horizontal?
It is poisoned by the "Ellsberg paradox".
I wrote the Ellsberg paradox to remind you that
When we make mistakes,
Especially when there are small mistakes
The least expensive method,
It's about honestly admitting mistakes
Never use a bigger mistake
to salvage and cover up the mistakes that have been made.
The vast majority try to cover up the otherwise wrong behavior with a bigger mistake
In the end, they all paid a greater price.
Second thing:
One of the things that many Chinese, including myself, are best at doing is "using people's shortcomings to protect their own shortcomings".
What is the shortness of employing people and protecting one's own shortcomings?
Let me give you an example:
Zhang San crossed the street and ran a red light, the traffic police stopped him to be punished, Zhang San pointed to another person who was far away and said:
He also ran a red light, why didn't you punish her? ”
The so-called use of others' shortcomings to protect one's own shortcomings means that oneself has made mistakes, but he finds reasons from others to cover up or shirk his own mistakes.
The Mercedes-Benz owner is the same, after he was said by the guy to be driving in the wrong direction, he pointed to a group of cars behind him and said:
Do you think I'm going backwards alone? ”
He tries to use the shortcomings of others to protect his own shortcomings, so as to cover up or excuse his own mistakes.
The phenomenon of using people's shortcomings to protect one's own shortcomings is too common in life:
I'm not alone. ”
He also ran a red light, why didn't you catch him? ”
Everyone is doing this, why are you holding me back? ”
Everyone is greedy, what's the use of me not being greedy? ”
Facts aside, isn't he at all wrong? ”
This kind of short-term employment and self-protection often lead things to a deadlock and a vicious circle.
Do you remember the bus crash in 2018?
What was the cause of the bus crash?
It is "the shortcomings of using people to protect their own shortcomings", a female passenger herself negligently sat at the station, but blamed the driver for not reminding loudly, in order to cover up her mistakes, as a result, the two had a fierce dispute, causing a huge disaster:
2 people argued, 3 seconds of fighting each other, 1 person missed a stop, and 14 people missed the second half of their lives. ”
What a painful lesson!
Why do I talk about "employing people's shortcomings and protecting one's own shortcomings"?
I also want to give you a reminder:
Admit mistakes on a case-by-case basis
is the best way to solve the problem.
You can't use people's shortcomings to protect your own shortcomings
You can't use people to cover up your own mistakes
Others don't do well,
It should not be a reason for us to do something bad.
We must be on the basis of facts and have the courage to admit our mistakes.
Wu Jun, the former chief engineer of Google, found a very interesting problem:
I have dealt with Europeans and Americans a lot, and I have found that their logic is different from ours.
They like to talk about things on their own merits, and they don't like to use people's shortcomings to protect their own shortcomings. ”
Teacher Wu Jun gave an example:
Once, I was in one of Google's offices and heard David, the director, criticizing employee Jonathan.
Here's why:
Jonathan's desk is an open area, and he usually speaks loudly, which disturbs his colleagues, who report the incident to David.
David said, "You speak softly in the future, and don't affect others." ”
Jonathan said: "I listened to you that day and the tone was also very high. ”
Jonathan is making strong words.
But if David says, "Where is my tune, I don't believe you ask the others." ”
Then the conversation will not continue.
But David didn't do that, but said:
You reminded me very well, if the next time you find that my speech is too high, please point it out to me, I will definitely pay attention, but today your tone is really high, this matter has nothing to do with others, please pay attention. ”
Jonathan had nothing to say, so he accepted the criticism and corrected his mistakes.
We can't use people's shortcomings to protect our own shortcomings, and others don't do well, which should not be a reason for us to do badly.
We must be on the basis of facts and have the courage to admit our mistakes. ”
There is a famous saying in the field of crisis PR:
The idea is wrong, and solving the crisis will only create a bigger crisis.
So when we "make mistakes and get caught", remember two sentences:
1. Admit your mistakes honestly and don't try to cover up the mistakes you've already made with bigger mistakes.
2. Admit mistakes on the facts, don't use people's shortcomings to protect your own shortcomings, and don't use others' faults to cover your own mistakes.
As long as you follow these two points, no matter how much you pay, it is actually the smallest price.