Who are the four ugly women in history, and why do they live better than the four beauties?
Beauty is subjective, and everyone's definition of beauty is different. When choosing a mate, the appearance is important, but the inner qualities and virtues of a person are also worth appreciating. Throughout the ages, there has been no shortage of love stories that are ugly on the outside but can discover inner beauty. Just as the outward brightness of a flower withers with the passage of time, the light of inner virtue is eternal.
When we are confused on the road of interpersonal communication, perhaps we should take a look at these four ancient people, who are not shocking, but they have all found true love, and their wisdom will also benefit us a lot.
i.The Ugly Blue Wife - The Ugly Woman of the Yellow Emperor's Era.
In the long and wonderful history of the Chinese nation, let us first take a look at a woman who lived in ancient times - the ugly girl. According to legend, she was one of the wives of Xuanyuan Yellow Emperor, kind-hearted, dignified and generous, but her appearance was mediocre, and it could even be said that she was extremely ugly.
At that time, different tribes often clashed over resources, especially population. To prevent inter-tribes"Kiss grabbing", the Yellow Emperor deliberately chose such an ugly woman as his wife to express"Don't judge people by their appearance, inner temperament is the most important"thoughts.
As the right-hand man and concubine of the Yellow Emperor, the mother-in-law not only has both ability and political integrity, but also has the courage to innovate and be ingenious. She invented the mirror, an important tool that changed human lives.
Legend has it that an ugly woman was looking for a stone in the mountains when she found a smooth and shiny stone slab. She picked it up curiously and looked at it, startled, only to see a blurry and ugly human face. What is it that reflects the face so accurately?
In order to solve the mystery of the slate, the ugly woman began to polish the surface of the slate over and over again, hoping to make the reflection on the slate clearer. After years of hard work, she finally made the world's first mirror. When the ugly girl looked in the mirror for the first time and saw her ugly face, what emotions did she have in her heart? She may be sorry for her appearance, or she may accept this fact indifferently. In any case, this invention undoubtedly shows her intelligence and creativity.
Not only that, but the Yellow Emperor also bestowed ugly girls"Fang Xiang's"The official position is meant to prevent plagues and disasters by her appearance. In ancient society, people often believed that ugly faces could ward off evil spirits, so the shapes of many exorcism items were also based on the appearance of ugly women. It can be said that the ugly girl made good use of herself"Advantages:", which was a great success for the Yellow Emperor.
Beneath the ugly appearance of his mother-in-law is a kind and intelligent heart, which is the main reason why the Yellow Emperor attracted his mother-in-law. What attracted the Yellow Emperor was her inner qualities, not her looks. The story of the ugly girl reminds future generations not to be fooled by superficial phenomena, but to judge a person by their inner essence.
The ambitious, ugly and strong woman in Spring and Autumn II - Zhong Lichun.
The ugly Zhong Lichun lived in the Qi State during the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period, and according to historical records, he"Burrs, deep eyes, long and strong, large knots, ribbed nose, sore throat, thick neck, little hair, wrinkled waist, outer chest, skin like a lump", which can be described as extremely ugly. But Zhong Lichun's inner world is colorful.
This seemingly humble woman has infinite ambitions in her heart. Although she was forty years old, she was still a yellow lady, so she was instilled with the idea that she must marry a prince or nobleman, and must not succumb to her ambitions.
At that time, it was of course difficult to expect a mediocre-looking woman to marry a prince. But Zhong Lichun did not lose hope, she believes that as long as she works hard, she can change her fate. After hard work, she finally got her wish, married King Qi Xuan, became the queen of Qi, and embarked on the road of wealth and glory since then.
Once, King Xuan got drunk at a banquet. Zhong Lichun saw this scene and tried his best to persuade King Xuan to quit drinking. Under his persuasion, King Xuan was deeply encouraged, and from then on he became more diligent in his political affairs, drank less, and listened to the sufferings of his subjects. With Zhong Lichun's help, the state of Qi became more and more prosperous.
Zhong Lichun's courage and integrity in defending the country are praised by future generations. Although Zhong Lichun is mediocre, he has great ambitions and works hard, which is the source of his charm. His story tells us not to despise a person just because he looks ordinary, because there may be a light of soul hidden under the ordinary appearance.
iii.Meng Guang, the wise woman of the Eastern Han Dynasty.
During the Han Dynasty, there was a woman named Meng Guang, who was extremely ugly, but very educated and had an elegant temperament. Meng Guang had a crush on Liang Hong, a famous scholar in the Eastern Han Dynasty. Liang Hong is not only handsome and dashing, but also very popular. Many local families wanted to marry their daughters to him, but he refused on the grounds that he had a wife.
Meng Xiaodong realized that her appearance was completely inconsistent with Liang Hong, but she mustered up the courage to express her true heart without hesitation, and finally Liang Hong was also moved by her sincerity and became her husband.
Liang Hong was taken aback when he first met his ugly bride, Meng Guang, on his wedding night. He couldn't help but leave the cave disappointed. However, Meng Guang's wisdom and calmness protected Liang Hong's heart. He taught Liang Hong that a learned person should not only look at the outside and despise the inside. If he has such an idea, how can Liang Hong be worthy"White rows"What about this title?
Meng Guang's wisdom and humility made Liang Hong feel ashamed, and from then on he no longer cared about Meng Guang's appearance, but appreciated his inner qualities. They developed a deep spiritual relationship and lived a happy married life. Their love marriage is what it is called"Raise your eyebrows"。
Meng Guang proved with practical actions that noble inner qualities can be hidden under ugly appearances. His noble character eventually overcame Liang Hong and transcended superficial external impressions. The story of this couple teaches us that the most important thing in marriage is not the outward appearance, but the inner harmony.
iv.The blue daughter of Ruan during the Three Kingdoms period.
There was a woman named Nün in the Three Kingdoms Wei who was born into a virtuous family. She is intelligent, calm, and empathetic, but her appearance is mediocre. Nguyen's daughter married a celebrity Xu Yun. When Xu Yun was young, he was ambitious and successful in his studies, but he was a little arrogant.
According to the wedding customs of the time, newlyweds usually met for the first time on the first night after their marriage. Xu Yun is full of expectations for his new wife and wants to see him. When he lifted the red veil and saw Nguyen's daughter looking the same as usual, he couldn't help but be disappointed and wanted to escape from the cave, which ruined the banquet.
Ruan Clan's Nu had apparently expected Xu Yun's reaction a long time ago. She hurriedly grabbed Xu Yun, she knew that if she let him go this time, she would never be able to wait for this proud man again. Xu Yun scolded her for not having the four virtues of a woman, and Nguyen's daughter calmly replied to Xu Yun:"Shouldn't a scholar have the virtue of all virtues, you look down on him just by looking at his appearance, how can he say that he has the virtue of all virtues?
Ruan's wisdom made Xuyun speechless, and from then on, Xuyun no longer cared about her appearance, and the two had a happy marriage. Nguyen's wisdom overcomes her husband's contempt for her, proving that appearance does not determine a person's inner qualities.
In this marriage, Xu Yun had the opportunity to recognize himself. He realized that people should not be judged by their appearance or identity, but that they must understand the minds and souls of others with an open mind. The couple's story also shows that smart women can finally change old prejudices and build new, equal, happy relationships.
Ugly women such as Zhong Lichun, Meng Quang, and Nguyen are not beauties in the traditional sense, but their virtues and qualities make them happier and more fulfilling than beauties.
Their stories reflect a fundamental point: when choosing a partner, while appearance is important, the inner character and qualities should also be taken into account. The longevity of a relationship depends not only on the superficial impression, but also on the harmony of two hearts.
If we are looking for love, don't be fooled by worldly prejudices and miss out on a true soulmate. The development of all relationships takes time and understanding. Remember, even an imperfect exterior can hide a heart of gold.
So, what are your criteria when faced with a choice? I hope you find what really matters on the path of relationships. Life is short, let's embrace those who are different in our limited time.