Fear of marriage and love is not "not love", but is indeed out of "fear" of marriage and love, which is a very representative psychological phenomenon in today's society. Why does this psychological phenomenon occur?
1. The cost of marriage is high, and the pressure of marriage is increasing
Compared with the material scarcity of parents and elders, with the continuous development of society and the rising price level, from the assets that need to be prepared for love to marriage, to the things that need to be sorted out for the details of the wedding, it is no longer as simple as getting a book for marriage.
Although the house and car do not represent absolute feelings, poor couples mourn everything, and they can't even reach the most basic, and how to make each other trust their abilities, so it is difficult to maintain a harmonious relationship for a long time!
The cost of falling in love and meeting a scumbag is too high, and when you meet the right one, you will get married, start a family and buy real estate, and you will not be able to afford a house or get married for the rest of your life on your own. This is one of the reasons why young people are afraid of marriage!
2. The divorce rate is getting higher and higher, which has become a negative teaching material
Traditionally, marriage has meant a guarantee of life and other support for both spouses. But today's young people no longer believe that marriage can do that. With the development of society, there are also various problems such as vicious divorce and economic disputes. There are all kinds of doubts about the security of marriage.
I am used to hearing too many quarrels and betrayals in marriage, and I am used to seeing the general instinctive viciousness and ruthlessness in divorce, and over time, I feel in my inner cognition that marriage is terrible, unreliable, and preventable, and there will be no good end to a relationship, so if you don't get married, you won't get divorced, and you won't be hurt!
3. Unwilling to take on the responsibility of marriage
Getting married means taking on a responsibility, financially, in life, and emotionally. And for many young people, they feel that they are not ready to take on this responsibility because it requires more time and energy on their part. As a result, they prefer to enjoy a single life with only themselves rather than face the challenges of married life.
Nowadays, society has become more and more economical, so people are chasing material satisfaction, the sense of belonging in marriage is getting worse and worse, and young people are more and more pursuing their own personality and their own independent space, feeling that a person will live well, and marriage will bring constraints to themselves.
Actor Zhang Jianing once expressed his opinion on "fear of marriage":
Why do I want to get married, I'm good alone, I'm going to take care of two families when I'm married, what about my career, then if my husband treats me badly after I get married, I have a child, my body has become bad, after I have a child, my job is gone, then will he continue to love me? ”
This passage can basically represent a microcosm of the attitude of most women towards marriage. What do you think about fear of marriage?