In life, we often hear some common sayings about relatives, some people say that relatives are the people who must be present on certain occasions, and some people say that the rich and noble are together, and the poor and lowly relatives are separated. It seems that relatives are not favored and are considered inferior to friends and even classmates. However, the relationship between relatives is a kind of unilateral choice, and it cannot be easily severed. At some point in our lives, or at a critical moment, friends may drift apart, classmates may go in different directions, but relatives are always there.
Some relatives may not see each other for years and lose contact with each other, but that doesn't mean they become complete strangers to each other. Cao Cao dominated one side during the Three Kingdoms period, not by virtue of his own strength, but by the help and interaction of his relatives. Although there may be selfishness and contradictions in kinship, we do not need to take extreme measures to deal with it.
Why shouldn't we easily cut ties with our relatives? First of all, we need to take a long-term view, because maybe one day we will need their help. Just like when Cao Cao was young, Xiahou Yuan suffered from prison for him, and the two established a deep friendship because of this. Over time, their relationship deepened and even developed into a kinship. On the road of life, we cannot predict what will happen in the future, but maintaining good family relationships can bring unexpected help to our future lives.
Secondly, we should value blood ties, as this is one of the most stable social relationships. Cao Cao once faced a dilemma when weighing the heir, but even when his son Cao Zhi made a mistake, he did not give up completely. His decision was partly based on the blood ties between siblings, which were essential to the stability of the family.
In addition, we need to respect our elders and not corrupt our family ethos. After Cao Cao gained political strength, he showed a certain amount of mercy in dealing with kinship despite his tough approach. Even after the change of regime, he did not exterminate the previous emperor, but retained his position. Harmony between relatives helps to preserve the family's reputation and traditions.
Overall, in a society with intricate relationships, the importance of kinship cannot be overlooked. Despite all the conflicts and frictions we may encounter, it is not useless to keep in touch with relatives. Because relatives can be our most reliable supporters when faced with difficulties. Don't break off relationships with relatives easily, we can choose to keep a certain distance, but don't cut off the relationship completely. Let's cherish the emotional ties of our families, maintain good kinship relationships, and get through the ups and downs of life together.
Finally, let's consider a question: What does kinship mean to you in your life?