I'm an ordinary person, an ordinary family, an ordinary appearance. Like all people, I have experienced the pits that ordinary people have to step on and the hardships that they have endured. But I'm a person who knows what is lacking, I will try to adjust, if I don't know how to change, I will try to hit a wall, and then life will force me to change.
In fact, if people really want to change themselves, it is much easier than before, because in the past, information was blocked, information was poor, and information barriers were difficult to break. Even if you read a book, it will take a lot of time, and it may not be suitable for you, it is what you want. But now it's different, if you're willing to humbly ask for advice, there will be seniors around you who will give you advice. At the same time, the network information is developed, and if you want to find answers, you can search for useful information on the Internet and refine it. If you really can't do it, you can also pay for consultation or something, as long as you have the heart, you can find a solution.
But I see a lot of people around me, both people who haven't changed much, and people who want to change but stay where they are. Take the last time I communicated with a friend I didn't know very well, I felt that I didn't say anything, but I had a different opinion (and the way I spoke was fine, because I was a salesperson, so I was very concerned about the way I spoke). He was very angry. I was very confused, I didn't know what was going on. Kwan's was completely beyond my expectations, (because he was not only older, but also read a lot of books). It is precisely because of these qualities of his that I am even more confused about his surprise. It was only later that I realized that this was the other side that I had never seen. When encountering an emergency, his defense was uncontrollably manifested at that moment, (which should have a lot to do with his family of origin). But I know that he overreacted at the time, and he realized afterwards that it was wrong, but he didn't know what to do at the time. In fact, everyone's defense is different, and it's nothing.
There are many people who are immersed in the world and cling to their cognitive life, and they are quite happy. But some people know they need to improve, but they don't know what to do. Of course, in order to change, it is necessary to change from little by little actions, and it is necessary to do something that you don't want to do but know you have to do, as long as you can take action to promote it, it can cause a change in thinking. But before acting, there is a key point that is more important, and that is to accept it first.
Acceptance must be a prerequisite for action, just like the friend I mentioned above, he just knows that he needs to adjust, and he wants to adjust (I think he must have hit a lot of walls before). But the reason why he was still in place was only because his defense in that moment proved that part of his heart did not really accept him. Once a person accepts that he has a problem, his focus must be to find ways to consult others, or consult, hoping to make the future road smoother through adjustment, instead of covering up and not admitting it, which will become a knot in his heart, and others can hurt him even if they have no intention.
Therefore, if you want to adjust, you must first accept that there are indeed these problems in you, and that there are indeed deficiencies in you. When you accept it, you won't want to hide it, you won't be in pain when you poke it, and the focus is just on solving the problem.
2024 Book of Answers God is really fair, maybe the difficulties you are suffering at the moment are what you should bear, God throws you these difficulties, in fact, I want to remind you that you should adjust in some way.