There was a very popular ** interview circulating on the Internet:
What do you think marriage brings to a woman?
Most of the women interviewed thought for a long time, but in the end they were speechless.
That's the bloody reality.
The writer Mo Yan once admonished women:
Marriage is inherently a cooperation, you don't need to make it look like love, remember, love will disappear.
The low-level men want to renew the incense, the middle-level men want to find helpers, the upper-level men want to find strong teammates, and the scumbag wants you to help the poor.
Therefore, in the face of marriage, women must be sober. When the marriage is unhappy, the woman must be worthy of herself.
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Xiao Zeng has been hesitant to remarry.
When the man found her, he knelt down and cried bitterly, and repeatedly promised that the problem of doing it himself would definitely be changed.
The two have been married for 7 years and are a self-made teenager couple. Men are good at everything, they just love to drink, and as long as they drink, they will do something to her.
But when he came to his senses the next day, the man would slap himself hard, scold himself for not being human, and then beg for her forgiveness.
After 7 years of marriage, the man repeated the old tricks, and Xiao Zeng repeatedly relented and forgiven, until one day, she was beaten to the hospital, and her parents, brother and sister-in-law learned about it, and insisted that she divorce.
After the divorce, the man took away her son, and the son was her weakness, and she often cried all night long and couldn't sleep, and repeatedly struggled with what the man said:
It's all because you're going to get a divorce, and your son has become a child of a single-parent family at a young age.
As soon as she thought of this, she couldn't wait to agree to the man's remarriage and give her son a complete home.
At the last moment, it was my brother and sister-in-law who stood up and tried their best to stop her.
The sister-in-law who was a teacher said:
Don't misunderstand the complete home. Not having a father and a mother is a complete family.
A complete home in the true sense is when parents love each other and then love their children together, so that a home can be regarded as a truly complete home and have the meaning of continuing together.
The kind of family with parents at home, but the parents are noisy every day, and the children live in fear and worry all the time, such a complete family is not as good as a harmonious and warm single-parent family.
The meaning of home is warmth, if there is no warmth in a home, then such a home, don't do it.
Two. In a secular sense, Xiao Chen is a typical white-bone woman, white-collar worker, backbone, and elite. The job is good, the income is decent, and the social status is passable.
But Xiao Chen is also struggling, is the current marriage ending or continuing?
But no matter how you choose, for Xiao Chen, it is a pity for the pain of deboning.
Xiao Chen and the man are the wedding dress of the campus, and they have spent 15 years together along the way. Now he has a house and a car, a good income, and a well-behaved and sensible daughter, in the eyes of outsiders, he is a standard successful person.
But three months ago, Xiao Chen found out that the man had cheated.
The man said to the woman that for so many years, Xiao Chen only knew how to work, make money, make money, work, and didn't care about himself at all. It is also very hard to take care of the children and housework, but the money he earns is not as much as Xiao Chen, and he always can't raise his head at home.
These words made Xiao Chen angry, ashamed, and speechless.
Life in a big city is not easy, men are the kind of jobs that are stable but have limited income, and if they want to make a leap in the family's economic conditions, they can only work their own.
But in reality, in the past ten years of marriage, I have indeed paid little attention to my family, paid attention to men, and even had very little time to accompany my daughter.
Are men wrong? Trampling on the bottom line of marriage is naturally wrong.
But men's grievances are also real and objective.
And after 15 years of hand in hand, the relationship of interests between the two people is no longer clear in one or two sentences. The parents, children, career relations, and financial entanglements of both parties ......The cut is continuous, and the rationalization is still messy.
So Xiao Chen is torn between separation and inseparability.
In the end, it was the best friend who did psychological counseling who woke her up:
Think about it, what do you want most in this marriage? Did you get it again?
No marriage can meet all your needs, everyone can't have both and more, think clearly about your core needs, the rest, yes, is the icing on the cake, no, is a matter of course.
In an instant, Xiao Chen Daigo was empowered.
In the final analysis, marriage is just a cooperative relationship, and if it is valuable, it will continue. If it's worthless, it's over.
But no matter when and where, you must be worthy of yourself.
You are a wife, a mother, a daughter, but you are first and foremost yourself. Life is not long, love yourself well and remember to be worthy of yourself. Family marital affection