There is a saying:
The love of parents for their children is far-reaching.
Parents love their children and make long-term plans for their children.
For the elderly, the best way to love their children is not necessarily to help take care of their children, but to do the following two things.
This is the best love for children and the greatest wisdom in life.
Take care of yourself and save your children from worrying about the future
After the age of 60, Uncle Zhou's first task is to take care of himself.
Eat a balanced diet, and those who should avoid their mouths should also be serious and avoid their mouths. Raise some chickens, grow some vegetables, and do a little farm work as much as you can. Don't listen to the fools of all kinds of health care products, and take care of every penny in your hands. If you have free time, the villagers will visit the door and play a few rounds of mahjong, and the days will be happy.
In fact, Uncle Zhou's youngest grandson is only ten years old, if he is placed in his hometown to study, Uncle Zhou can take care of it, and Uncle Zhou's son can also work outside wholeheartedly.
But Uncle Zhou insisted that his son take his grandson away.
Uncle Zhou said, "My grandson is by my side, and I can really help take care of it." But the next generation, the next generation, I can't help but spoil him, this is not helping my son, but harming my son.
Children still have to follow their parents, and only by following their parents can they receive real education.
I'll take care of myself, so that every time my son comes back, he can see that the family is safe, and that's it.
For the elderly, physical health is not only their own, but also the big family.
When the children are middle-aged, the old and the young, no matter which aspect of the problem, the children caught in the middle will not be able to work with peace of mind and live a stable life.
If the elderly are physically and mentally healthy, they will not become a drag on their children, and their children can rest assured that they can work hard for their careers and lives.
Learn to sit on the sidelines and give the initiative to your children
There is a saying that if you are not stupid, you are not deaf, and you are not a family.
It means that when people reach old age, they must learn to pretend to be deaf and dumb, learn what they should not ask, not ask, and what they should not take care of.
This is not a kind of cowardice and incompetence, but a heartfelt understanding and respect for children.
After all, the children have reached adulthood, have their own thoughts and concepts, and have their own family and life, so let the children bear what they should bear, which is the greatest respect and love for the children.
Grandma Zhang lives with her son and daughter-in-law, and the two generations live under the same roof, so naturally there will be many places that are not used to seeing.
For example, I don't sleep early or late, I like to order takeout quietly, I am a bit lavish in consumption, and I always buy something fresh and fashionable but not so practical.
When it comes to the education of their children, the two generations have different views. Grandma Zhang thinks that primary school children can do so as long as they are healthy and like sports. But the son and daughter-in-law enrolled the child in several training courses, and the child was very busy every day at a young age.
Although she has different ideas on many things, Grandma Zhang has never just suggested and will not take the initiative to interfere.
Grandma Zhang always said that young people have young people's ideas, and young people are quick to accept new things, and many ideas may be more relevant to the reality of the moment than the elderly.
Because they know how to respect their sons and daughters-in-law, a family of three generations living in the same house, they live in harmony.
Sociologists say that there are only three kinds of things in this world: one's own business, other people's business, and God's business.
The elderly only need to take care of their own affairs, and the affairs of their children will be handed over to their children.
Don't be a good teacher, and don't rely on the old to sell the old. Everyone's life is their own choice, and the children's life is made by the children and the children are responsible.
Letting go is true love.
There are many ways for the elderly to help their children, and helping their children take care of them is just one of them.
In fact, a better way to help is to take care of one's own life and not interfere in the small family affairs of the children, although it is not immediate, but it can achieve long-term happiness and harmony.
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