, "Action"** recently shared a series of touching short stories, allowing people to feel the different attitudes of these people who have grown up suppressed when educating their children. The parents in these stories know how to protect their children's self-esteem and confidence, and give them encouragement and support. Looking back on our own experiences of being repressed, we may be able to understand the choices of these parents and begin to re-examine our own evaluation system. This article will summarize the attitudes when educating children by enriching descriptions and relevant data, ** the situation of people who were repressed as children are now parents, and combining personal thoughts and opinions.
In these short stories, we see that people who have been repressed grow up to treat their children in a stark contrast to the education they received when they were children. They pay more attention to protecting their children's self-esteem and self-confidence, giving them encouragement and support. How did this shift happen?
From a psychological point of view, children who have been subjected to repressive education for a long time tend to have an inferiority complex and an unconfident attitude towards themselves. According to a survey by the Social Survey Center of China Youth Daily, as high as 906% of the young people surveyed said they had received a shocking education from their parents, 59Seven percent of the young people surveyed believe that this type of education leads to a lack of self-confidence and self-denial. These data illustrate the negative impact of repressive education on children's psyche.
As a result, those who grow up to be parents have more reflection and understanding of the way to educate their children. They want their children to have a healthy mental state and develop self-confidence and self-esteem. They understand the importance of giving encouragement and support to their children, and instead of pursuing external success and achievement, they focus on their inner growth and healthy development.
People who have been repressed often grow up with an inferiority complex and doubts about their own abilities. This type of education can cause people to focus too much on what the outside world says about themselves, and ignore their inner preferences and strengths. From a psychological point of view, people who have been subjected to repressive education for a long time tend to internalize negative evaluations and form an inferiority complex.
Psychologist Susan Foward points out, "You're there when you always hear negative comments about yourself from other people's mouths and let those comments into your subconscious."'Internalize'They. Internalization of negative evaluations – change'You are'for'I am'- formed the basis of inferiority complex. ”
In this state of mind, people often lack self-confidence, are prone to self-denial, and fail to see their potential and value. This is very detrimental to the growth and development of the individual.
People who have been affected by repressive education tend to reflect on the educational evaluation system and make changes when educating their children. They hope to develop children's inner self-confidence and self-esteem by establishing a positive evaluation system.
First, parents begin to encourage their children to develop their own interests and unique talents. They no longer force their children to evaluate their own values according to social standards, but respect their children's personal preferences and strengths. They encourage children to try more, try more, believe that children have their own potential and abilities, and help them discover their own value and meaning by nurturing their interests and strengths.
Second, parents focus on building good communication and trust, so that children can express their thoughts and feelings honestly. They value children's emotional needs, respect their individuality and choices, and give them positive support and encouragement. By interacting well with their children and building close relationships, parents help their children develop positive emotions and a good state of mind.
Finally, parents have also begun to pay attention to the cultivation of children's comprehensive literacy and quality. They not only focus on their children's academic performance, but also on nurturing their innovative thinking, sense of responsibility and spirit of cooperation. They want their children to be well-rounded and responsible and virtuous.
Looking back on my experience of being repressed, I deeply feel the pain and confusion involved. In that educational environment, I pursued praise and affirmation from the outside world too much, and neglected my own inner needs and strengths. I didn't dare to express my thoughts and opinions, and I didn't have the confidence to pursue my interests and dreams.
However, through study and reflection, I began to change my concept of education and focus on developing self-confidence and self-esteem in myself and others. I realized that everyone is unique and has their own merits and values. I try to let go of other people's evaluations, pay attention to my own inner needs and preferences, and encourage myself to try more, learn more, and continue to grow and improve.
When educating children, I try to give them encouragement and support, and to stimulate their potential and self-confidence. I want them to have their own interests and unique talents, and to cultivate a good emotional and psychological state through positive interaction and communication. At the same time, I also pay attention to the cultivation of their moral character and comprehensive literacy to help them become valuable people.
All in all, people who have been repressed with education have grown up with a positive change in the way they treat their children. They no longer emphasize external achievements and evaluations, but focus on nurturing children's inner growth and healthy development. By establishing a positive educational evaluation system that encourages children to develop their interests, talents, and qualities, they help children build self-confidence and self-esteem, and guide them to become valuable people. We can learn a lot from them and re-examine our own educational concepts to better educate the next generation.