In Taiyuan, Shanxi Province, a woman was snubbed by her classmates when she got married, and the woman decided to recover the 500 yuan she had given her when she got married. It is reported that this classmate is her graduate classmate, and when she got married in 2017, she gave the other party 500 yuan. Before she got married, she invited this classmate to the wedding, but the other party refused the invitation on the grounds of pregnancy, and did not take the initiative to return the gift. This woman believes that it is a customary rule to exchange gifts, and that if you give a gift, you should return it. So, she found a screenshot of the transfer at that time and asked the other party to return the 500 yuan gift money. She believes that such people should be taught a certain lesson, and advises not to give gifts to those who are only invited to marry out of courtesy, so as not to cause trouble.
Expanding: This story has sparked discussion and thinking about the wedding gift. In modern society, the wedding gift has become a common custom, which is an expression of the blessings and support of relatives and friends for the marriage of the newlyweds. However, with the development of society and the change of concepts, some people began to question the meaning and form of the ceremony. They believe that marriage should not be turned into an economic transaction, but should focus more on emotional communication. Therefore, they have adopted the practice of not giving gifts or choosing other forms of expression, hoping to make the wedding more pure and real.
On this issue, the legal argument is not to support the recovery of gift money without cause. Lawyer Fu Jian pointed out that the wedding gift to relatives and friends is generally irrevocable, unless there are illegal factors such as fraud and coercion. Therefore, it is only possible to recover the bonus money if there is a legitimate reason for it. He also reminded everyone that before considering the recovery of gift money, it is necessary to consider various factors such as social customs, interpersonal relationships, legal provisions and economic factors, and weigh the possible social and legal consequences.
Expanding: Different people have different views on this issue. Some people believe that since a gift is given, it should be returned as a sign of mutual respect and maintaining interpersonal relationships. Others believe that the purpose of the gift is blessing and support, and should not be measured by the amount of money, but should pay more attention to the exchange of feelings and mutual understanding. They believe that too much emphasis on the pursuit of gift money will lead to the commercialization and utilitarianization of human favors, which is not conducive to maintaining real interpersonal relationships. Therefore, they advocate a greater emphasis on sincerity and emotional expression in the wedding gift.
In recent years, more and more young people have begun to reflect on and rectify the custom of marriage ceremony. Some people choose to post on Moments, making it clear that they will no longer follow the gifts, hoping to avoid ineffective social interaction and unnecessary financial burdens. They believe that their money should be more focused on reasonable expenditure and management, rather than wasting it on gifts. At the same time, some couples choose to refuse to accept gift money or other forms of gifts, hoping to make the wedding more pure and authentic. This tendency to straighten out the money of the elements has been supported and appreciated by some people.
Expansion: In fact, rectifying the money does not mean the rejection of human feelings, but the hope of making human feelings more real and simple. In addition to the gift, there are many other ways to express blessings and support for the couple. For example, carefully selected gifts, willingness to help, giving serious blessings, and so on. These formats can add to the excitement of the wedding and make the relationship more intimate and authentic. Therefore, reorganizing the money does not mean giving up the human touch, but hoping to combine the human touch with sincere blessings to make every wedding a wonderful memory.