Parents' love for their children is selfless, and every parent is eager to create the best educational environment and living conditions for their children with their own strength, and strive to make money to ensure that their children live a better life.
Many parents worry that their children may develop a pampered personality that makes it difficult for them to live independently. Therefore, it is intended to let the child endure some suffering, which is called training the child.
Recently, a ** has caused widespread discussion on the Internet, and many people in the comment area expressed dissatisfaction with the mother's approach, believing that she did not fulfill her mother's responsibilities and that there were obvious problems with her education methods.
I've endured hardships, and she has to taste them too", my mother insisted on buying a station ticket, whether it was necessary to educate about hardships, and now that transportation is becoming more and more convenient, few people will choose to travel on the crowded green train. The car was overcrowded, and the smell of food, sweat and smoke in the air, combined with the noisy conversations, made people feel extremely uncomfortable.
When most people's conditions allow, they will try to avoid choosing trains when traveling in order to have a more comfortable travel experience. However, the mother insisted on choosing the train and bought a station ticket for her child, which is puzzling.
*, the child is tired and helpless leaning on the aisle, but the mother writes: "If there is no difficulty, it will create difficulties and meet them." She was clearly happy with the experience of being blinded.
Faced with the doubts in the comment area, the mother responded bluntly: "She has to suffer the hardships I have suffered." She advocates letting children endure some unnecessary suffering, believing that this can make children experience the hard-won happiness of life, so as to stimulate children's motivation to move forward to learn, which is the educational philosophy pursued by some parents.
The mother's words reveal a sense of jealousy that her child can enjoy the happy life she already has, and she gains a certain satisfaction by letting her child ride in a green car and witness her daughter go through the hardships she has experienced.
Some parents firmly believe that "only by suffering can you become a superior person", but is the only way to endure hardship is to let their children fall into poverty? Riding a train without a seat and enduring hunger are only due to poor economic conditions, which is not the true manifestation of a child's suffering.
Many parents believe in suffering education because they have experienced such growth since childhood, and believe that it was that difficult time that made them who they are today. But this is not the case, changing one's destiny and moving towards a better life through diligent hands, rather than the hardships of the past, is the real key to determining one's future life.
There is no need to be grateful for suffering, or even to force children to seek their own suffering, and the focus of parents' education should be on changing their lives through themselves, rather than letting their children learn to endure hardships.
Is Suffering Education Necessary? Can enduring hardships sharpen the will? It was once thought that suffering education was the concept of parents in the past, and now parents who pay attention to scientific parenting will abandon this concept, but this is not the case.
One student responded in the comments that her mother was reluctant to drive her to school even in the rainstorm, and as a result, she was soaking wet with an umbrella, while her mother said that it was to make her work hard, but took a different attitude towards her brother, claiming that the boy was late to understand.
Parents believe in suffering education, which may affect the development of students' mental health, lead students to form low self-esteem, sensitive personalities, think that they are not worthy of enjoying good things, and may eventually be bought in society because of some insignificant favors, which is more than worth the loss.
Some education experts also tend to promote education about suffering. A professor said in a speech: "Humiliation and suppression are the only way to grow up, and if you don't have a hammer, your child will become a defective product." It's hard to agree with this view.
Although parents put too much emphasis on suppressing students, although it may motivate students to study hard and achieve some achievements in the short term, in the long run, once students have the ability to resist, it is easy to become bored with learning, become victims of rebellion for the sake of resistance, and be desperate for their future.
In education, we often emphasize not to retreat in the face of difficulties, because there will inevitably be hardships in life, not because suffering can bring practical benefits to students, and there is no need to deliberately create hardships to test students.
Although the process of studying is full of hardships, parents can encourage students to work hard despite the difficulties. But the painful experiences such as buying standing tickets and going to school in the rain are really unnecessary and meaningless for the growth of students.
In order to make students understand that life is not easy, parents do not have to make them suffer by making them suffer hardships and earn money. After graduating, students will live independently on their own, experience the pressure of work and the hardships of life, and will naturally understand the dedication behind their parents to provide them with a better life.
Summary: Suffering education is not the only effective way of education, and excessive suffering may have a negative impact on students' physical and mental health, which is not conducive to academic performance. Parents should pay more attention to the mental health and emotional needs of their students, provide a positive and sunny family atmosphere, and make childhood a stage where they do not have to endure hardships.
When solving students' problems, parents should not blame everything on being too happy in life, but should find the root cause of the problem from the learning attitude and method, and solve it in a targeted manner, rather than simply thinking that the student needs to endure a little hardship to change.
The purpose of education is to get out of suffering and live a better life through hard work, rather than deliberately pursuing suffering itself, because suffering is not glorious, and real students should learn to overcome suffering through their own efforts.
Today's topic: Do you think it is necessary to deliberately make students suffer?
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