On the road of love, gifts are just a way to express one's heart, and the real emotion lies in mutual understanding and tolerance. But when one starts to feel that one's efforts are being ignored or even belittled, that's when one needs to think hard.
Last night, a conversation I had with my boyfriend sparked me thinking deeply about feelings. Valentine's Day, a day wrapped in romance, he could only offer to invite me to a cup of milk tea and an ordinary meal. The little loss in my heart was a sign that he didn't love him enough. But I began to wonder, is love just measured in material terms on a specific day?
He said that he was too busy to prepare gifts, but for me, a simple gift and a small surprise were all proofs that I could feel his intentions. I'm not asking for luxury, but I want him to understand my heart and care about my feelings.
Our arguments are not just about a Valentine's Day gift, but about each other's attitudes in a relationship. He hasn't given gifts since he was a child, maybe it's his habit, but for me, I need more than just a gift, but more importantly, he cares about me and respects me.
In the past six months, I have given a lot for this relationship, but what I have gained is only some insignificant items. I have given him many gifts, but what I hope for is not material returns, but his sincerity and care.
Eventually, I made up my mind to break up with him. Because in this relationship, I always felt like I was living in a dream, and the reality was cruel. I needed someone who understood me, respected me, and was willing to give for me, and he was clearly not.
Love is a process of understanding and tolerating each other, and when the process becomes painful and unbearable, perhaps it's time to let go. I choose to believe that the happiness that truly belongs to me will come at the moment when I face it bravely.
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PS: In love, the real value is not in the size of the gift, but in the understanding and care for each other.