In the traditional concept of marriage and love, the core of finding a suitable partner is often morality. Whether a man chooses a beautiful woman or a woman chooses a husband, character is an indispensable consideration.
Based on this philosophy, the foundation of trust should be established between husband and wife, and there should be no reservations or secrecy between each other.
Looking at those couples who have harmonious families, we can often see that there is no privacy barrier between them, and even each other's wallets and mobile phones are open. And for those couples who have secrets in their hearts, there are often hidden truths that they are unwilling to reveal.
In a remote village in Chongqing, one such incident happened. A man follows his girlfriend back to her hometown to meet his future father-in-law. However, when he stood in front of the door of his girlfriend's house, he suddenly felt hesitant and withdrawn.
His girlfriend's family situation exceeded his expectations, and he felt that he could not afford it.
The son of a villager in Chongqing, he and his girlfriend have been dating for more than a year, and the two have been talking about marriage and decided to visit each other's parents first.
His girlfriend drove him back to her rural hometown and showed him the land where she grew up.
Her girlfriend once described her childhood to the man, saying that she came from a rural area, and her family was poor when she was a child, and she even had to go to the mountains to collect medicine and sell it for money.
Hearing this, the man was full of sympathy and admiration for his girlfriend. He felt that it was not easy for such a girl who struggled from the countryside to have a car, a house and a career, and he vowed to be good to her.
But when he actually got out of the car and saw his girlfriend's home, he was stunned. Is it rural, is it poverty? He was greeted by a beautifully renovated three-storey cottage with a spacious courtyard.
The man suddenly felt that his girlfriend was not honest enough, and at the same time felt that he could not match her family. He had the idea of leaving.
The girlfriend explained that she did come from the countryside, but that the poverty she spoke of meant her childhood, not the present. Her family, through their own efforts and the help of their parents, has built such a beautiful house.
Despite the fact that the man has achieved something and has acquired his own house, he still feels inferior compared to his girlfriend, despite the fact that he still has a loan to repay.
The girlfriend has a successful career, drives a BMW X5, has her own spacious house, and his achievements seem insignificant in front of her.
Although he is full of inferiority complex inside, his girlfriend does not care about these external material conditions. She sees his potential and self-motivation and believes that he will be even more successful in the future. That's why she chose to be with him.
However, when he stepped into his girlfriend's home and met her illustrious brother and father, his inferiority complex deepened.
As the saying goes, people are more popular than people, and goods have to be thrown away. If his girlfriend's family is really very wealthy, then he may feel very aggrieved after marriage, always feel inferior, and dare not speak out loud in his girlfriend's home. Such a life would not be happy for him.
And, although it is not necessary to buy a house or a car when you get married, a bride price is essential. He was worried that he wouldn't even be able to get the bride price.
However, since you have come here, you must accept it with peace of mind. Those women who are independent and self-reliant value the qualities of the man, not his wealth.
Therefore, the girlfriend chose to be with him because she saw the shadow of her past, they had common topics and got along very well. Moreover, her current family conditions do not require a bride price, which is what he is worried about.