Hello Mr. Zhenxi:
When my ex-husband and I got married, some people said we weren't a good match. My family is in the city, the family is well-off, his family is in the countryside, my father is sick all the year round, and the economic conditions are not very good. Still, I chose him.
We were high school classmates, and we were in the same school when we were in college, so we naturally kept in touch more. After graduating from university, I was admitted to the civil service, but he was unwilling to live a life with a glimpse of the end and went out on his own. We kept in touch a lot, and two years later, we met again, and he offered to make me his girlfriend.
We have known each other for so many years, in fact, he has a good impression of me, but considering his family conditions are relatively poor, and his future after graduation is bleak, everything is unknown.
In fact, I also like him a lot, and even rely on him, as long as there is difficulty, the first thing I think of is him. He cared for me like a brother to a sister, and whenever I looked for him, he did his best to help me. So when he offered to let me be his girlfriend, I said yes without hesitation. From friends to lovers, we are a matter of course, there is no run-in period, and the relationship is also very stable.
He is more far-sighted and very thoughtful, which is what I admire most about him. In his own industry, he continues to develop network resources, and his career is developing smoothly; I have a stable job, my parents help us take care of the children, and life seems to be dull and happy.
But one day, I found out that he had someone outside. Before, he came back every week, and when he came back, he would stay at home with me and not go anywhere. Even if you can't be by my side, you will play a ** every day. Later, he was a little cold to me, there was no ** in a week, and when he came back, he was holding his mobile phone, and he couldn't give up. I felt something was wrong and started to pay attention to his every move.
Sure enough, he cheated. I saw that he had a consumption record on his phone to buy women's products, but it was not for me. He said he bought it for a female customer, I don't believe it, he also bought erotic underwear for female customers?
He couldn't hold it anymore and finally admitted to me that he had indeed cheated.
I have a strong personality and can't tolerate such a thing. Although he repeatedly apologized to me and admitted his mistakes, saying that he was just confused for a moment and asked me to forgive him, I was so sad that I resolutely divorced him.
To be honest, we have been in a relationship for so many years, and we have long been dependent on each other, and the divorce is actually something I want to punish him severely, and I know that we are inseparable. So when he proposed that for the sake of the children, we should divorce and not leave home, I had no objection. I know he doesn't want to leave this home either.
In fact, he is also quite screwed, once he gets angry, he will do things regardless of it. I originally planned to punish him for a while, as long as he bowed his head and admitted his mistakes and impressed me with practical actions, I might remarry him. At first, he was sincere, but I couldn't get over that hurdle in my heart, and I was cold to him. After a while, he seemed to be a little impatient, so he simply confronted me. As soon as he went on a business trip, he didn't go home for half a month, and when he came home, he kept a straight face and didn't talk to me. I'm angry, but we're not husband and wife anymore, and I have no reason to be angry with him anymore.
Later, he actually took advantage of the child's absence to bring the woman back at night. I know he deliberately me off and made me jealous.
I was so angry that I couldn't sleep all night, but he turned a blind eye, and in a fit of rage, I moved into another house. Later, he came to talk to me and said that he wanted to remarry me, and he didn't have any real feelings for that woman, just to let me experience that if he really lived with another woman, would I regret it.
Hearing his words, I have mixed feelings in my heart, he still loves me, which makes me feel a little comforted, but how can he bear to hurt me in this way?
I hesitated, hoping that he would lower his posture and let my grievances and pain be released, and he forced me to remarry in this way, which I couldn't accept.
We went on to live our separate lives, and I waited for him to apologize to me and reconcile with me in the way I expected, but he didn't hear from him more and less. He didn't contact me until it was about the child.
I was a little flustered. Peng used to take care of his family very much, even if he was divorced, he would transfer me a sum of money every once in a while, afraid that I would lack money in hand, and also afraid that his son would be wronged. Later, he stopped transferring money to me and rarely contacted me. But if I contact him, he will still talk to me like a family member, and at that moment, I seem to have regained my identity as a wife, and my inner panic will be reduced, but as soon as the connection is broken, I fall into boundless loss again.
I couldn't stand this torture and decided to propose a remarriage. I lowered my profile and talked to him. To my surprise, he said that he already had a woman by his side, and now he has a lot of business contacts with her, even if he remarries, it is not now.
His words made my heart feel cold. However, he would still come home to see me and live with me as a couple. I don't know if he really still has me in his heart and wants to remarry me, or is he perfunctory to me? I don't want to share him with another woman, what is this state?
In this way, we have been divorced for nearly eight years, and he wants to remarry, but I don't agree; I wanted to remarry, but he had a lover. But I can feel that we still have feelings, and I don't know what to do now to save his heart.
Really emotional answer:
Hello, after encountering a partner's cheating, most people have a feeling: a sense of humiliation. The heroine is no exception, and the sense of humiliation made her choose to divorce.
Does she really want a divorce in her heart, yes! She just felt that her husband's posture of asking for forgiveness was not very low, so that the resentment in her heart had nowhere to vent, and she wanted to wait for her husband's posture to be lower before forgiving. Unexpectedly, it backfired, and my husband didn't want to turn back.
So, let's objectively analyze, why did the heroine's husband cheat? Perhaps it was because his emotional needs could not be met in the couple's relationship, and he turned to the outside to seek satisfaction. The fault of the cheating must be on her husband, but she has her own reasons. Just imagine, if her husband repented and wanted to turn back, she shouldn't have to be unforgiving, she should turn the page on the cheating incident, slowly let go of revenge, and live a good life. Her vindictiveness made her miss a good opportunity.
The clothes are not as good as new, and the people are not as good as the old. After going around and around, the heroine wanted to choose to remarry, but her husband pinned his feelings on other women when his efforts failed.
When encountering something, they will divorce angrily, and do not completely solve the problem between the two people, even if they remarry, the relationship between the two people will not be good, the contradiction is still the original contradiction, and the problem is still the original problem. If you have a heart to change, it will never be too late, divorce is not a relief, sometimes it can only be an escape.
After divorce, it is the freedom of two people to choose whether to remarry, but this decision must not be made lightly. If it's obviously inappropriate, you have to force it, it's just a second injury. If the two sides are open and honest, they may be able to usher in a glimmer of opportunity. For the heroine, she still has love for her husband, and it is good to want to reunite after breaking the mirror, but now that he has a favorite person, the heroine's road to remarriage is not so easy to take.