FlowersThe status of the raiders in the Jia Mansion was highly disputed and was usedRed ScientistCalled the unwavering pro-hairpins, because it is widely believedJia BaoyuOnly marriedXue BaochaiFlowersOnly by attacking people can there be hope for their future lives. However, inLin DaiyuwithXue Baochaibetween,FlowersThe treatment of the attackers was very different.
ForXue Baochaito say,FlowersThe raider is just a maid with a slightly more decent status, just a foil by her side. WhileLin DaiyuRightFlowersThe attitude of the assault is different, she seesFlowersAttack man-madeJia BaoyuThe closest people around you are even closer than yourself. Although there is no clear proof in the text that Daiyu knewJia Baoyuand the relationship between the attackers, but from Daiyu calledFlowersJudging from the details of the attacker as a "good sister-in-law", it can be seen that Daiyu not only recognizes the identity of the attacker, but also believes that she will becomeJia BaoyuThe little wife. And Daiyu has always been full of closeness and gratitude to the attackers.
However,FlowersWhy do you support it?Xue BaochaibecomeJia Baoyu's wife, not out of consideration for the harmony of wives and concubines, let alone because of the sequelLin Daiyusaid".East windOverwhelming the west wind" letFlowersThe attacker was full of fear of Daiyu, believing that there must be a life-and-death struggle between wives and concubines in the big family. In fact, in Jiafu, there was no such brutal situation of struggle. For exampleMrs. WangwithAunt ZhaoThe relationship entanglement, exactlyAunt ZhaoPersonal problems did not causeMrs. WangThe brutal suppression of her. WhileWang XifengThe contradiction between him and Second Sister You is mainly because of Xifeng's inner insistenceMonogamy, can't tolerate other women. To sum up, in Jiafu, the relationship between wives and concubines is generally harmonious. Therefore,FlowersRaid supportXue BaochaiIt is not out of self-interest, but hopes that after Baoyu can marry Baochai, Baochai can persuade Baoyu to take the right path and achieve itEconomyIndependence and career development, becauseLin DaiyuwithJia BaoyuTogether, it was just a pure love, and the future livelihood was not considered.
However,Xue BaochaiNot reallyFlowersThe most ideal Bao Er grandmother in people's hearts. ForFlowersIn terms of attacking people, the most ideal Bao Er grandmother isShi XiangyunShi XiangyunwithFlowersThe relationship between the two can be said to be as close as sisters, and the relationship between the two is closer than the others. Shi XiangyunBecause withFlowersRaiders are intimate, soFlowersThe attacker would trouble her to help with needlework, and it was because of thisShi XiangyunSpecially giftedFlowersAssaultRingsAs a symbol of girlfriends. The special relationship formed since childhood makes the relationship between the two parties deeper. Shi XiangyunWhen I returned to Jia for the second time,FlowersThe attacker deliberately joked "I heard that you were overjoyed" and mentioned itShi XiangyunThe intimate conversation with her ten years ago, although the specific content is unknown, can be guessed to be about intimate topics such as marrying Baoyu when she grows up. Therefore, inFlowersAttack people's hearts, onlyShi Xiangyunis the most ideal Bao Er grandmother, because ifShi XiangyunMarryJia Baoyu, she will never treat the attacker as a maid, this isXue BaochaiwithLin Daiyucan't do it.
Jia BaoyuofMarriageChoice has always been a controversial topic in Dream of Red Mansions. In the whole **,Jia BaoyuThere are many women around him, and each one has their own influence and meaning for him, especially forFlowersAssault, she's rightJia BaoyuFeelings and attitudes are more complicated. AlthoughJia BaoyuEventually marriedXue BaochaiAs a wife, but judging from Hua Xiren's attitude towards Lin Daiyu and Xue Baochai, the ideal in her heartMarriageThe object is:Shi Xiangyun
My opinion is,FlowersAttacking people in the idealMarriageA number of practical factors were taken into account in the selection of objects. She recognizedLin DaiyuwithJia BaoyuThe relationship is more of a kindEmotionbonds, and can not giveJia BaoyuBring substantivelyEconomyand career development. WhileXue BaochaiAlthough there are certainEconomyability, but she has a cold attitude towards assault and is unable to bring her real intimacy and support. WhileShi XiangyunIt's different for her to attack peopleFriendshiphas a long history and a close relationship, even if marriedJia Baoyuwill also care for the attacker, giving her real family warmth and support.
This question sparked me to wonderMarriageInstitutional thinking. In ancient times,MarriageOften there is more than oneEmotionBonds, more of a social andEconomyRelationship union. InFlowersStrike people to see, choose the idealMarriageThe object is not blindly pursuedEmotion, but to take into account the actual ability of the other person and help you in your future life. This point of view made me understand the modern ageMarriageIt's not justEmotionchoice, and more of a social andEconomypartnerships. People are choosingMarriageobject, there are many factors that should be taken into account, not onlyEmotionFactor.
In general,FlowersThe most ideal Bao Er grandmother in people's hearts is notLin Daiyu, and noXue Baochai, ratherShi Xiangyun。She to:Shi XiangyunFor reasonFlowersAssault, she's rightXue BaochaiwithLin DaiyuThe attitude is very different. In her eyes,Xue BaochaiJust a slightly decent maid, whileLin DaiyuYesJia BaoyuThe closest people around. AlthoughLin DaiyuRightJia BaoyuwithFlowersThe relationship between the attackers was not known, but shouted from herFlowersIt can be seen from the title of "good sister-in-law" that the attacker is hereLin DaiyuRightFlowersThe attacker is very recognized, even closer than himself. MoreoverLin DaiyuAll the timeFlowersAttackers are grateful and close.
However,FlowersThe reason why the attackers are supportiveXue BaochaibecomeJia Baoyu's wife, not because of a harmonious relationship between wives and concubines, nor because of itLin DaiyuSaid "NoEast windTo overwhelm the west wind is to overwhelm the west windEast wind”。In fact, there is no life-and-death struggle between wives and concubines in Jiafu, and most wives and concubines live in harmony with each other. FlowersThe reason why the attackers are supportiveXue Baochai, because she wishedXue BaochaiAble to persuadeJia BaoyuTake the right path and achieve itEconomyIndependence and career development. BecauseLin DaiyuwithJia BaoyuThere is only the affection of Eun Eun**, and the question of future livelihood has never been considered.
However,FlowersThe most ideal Bao Er grandmother in people's hearts is notXue Baochai, ratherShi XiangyunShi XiangyunwithFlowersThe relationship between the two is as close as sisters, and the relationship between the two is even closer. Although the exact content is unknown, it can be guessedShi XiangyunInFlowersAttacking people has an important place in people's hearts, ifShi XiangyunMarryJia Baoyu, she will definitely not be to Hua Xiren's attitude towards Lin Daiyu and Xue Baochai is different in Dream of Red Mansions. ForXue BaochaiFlowersThe attacker has a certain respect, because Baochai is Baoyu's fiancée and has a relatively high status. However,FlowersRaider doesn't really like Baochai, because she feels that Baochai is not close to her, and she cares less about herself.
ForLin DaiyuFlowersThe attitude of the attacker is more intimate and welcoming. FlowersAttackers regard Daiyu asJia BaoyuThe closest people around, and they have a deep affection for each other. Daiyu is right, tooFlowersThe raider is full of gratitude and closeness. Although Daiyu didn't knowJia BaoyuwithFlowersAttack the relationship between people, but from her calledFlowersJudging from the details of the attacker as a "good sister-in-law", it can be seen that Daiyu not only recognizes the identity of the attacker, but also believes that she will becomeJia BaoyuThe little wife. Daiyu even hid her own scroll of lettersFlowersIn the attacking bed, it can be seen that she is rightFlowersAttack people's trust and dependence.
AlthoughFlowersAssault on peopleLin DaiyuVery close, but she doesn't think Daiyu is the ideal second grandmother. InFlowersIn people's hearts, the ideal Bao Er grandmother should beShi XiangyunShi XiangyunwithFlowersThere is a very deep relationship between the attackersFriendship, they depend on each other and care for each other. Shi XiangyunHelped many timesFlowersAttack the problem and give up the bed tentFlowersattacked people, and also gave her jewelry as a symbol of girlfriend's love. FlowersThe raiders are very appreciative and adoredShi Xiangyun, who thinks she is a person who can bring real family warmth and support to herself.
To sum up, Hua Xiren has a different attitude towards Lin Daiyu and Xue Baochai. She's rightLin DaiyuMore intimate and warm, see her asJia BaoyuThe closest people around. And forXue BaochaiFlowersAlthough the attacking attitude has a certain respect, I don't really like her. And in the heart,FlowersAttackers thinkShi Xiangyunis the most ideal Bao Er grandmother, becauseShi XiangyunAnd she has a very deep relationshipFriendshipand intimacy.