Honesty and integrity are one of our most precious human qualities. For the growth of girls, this quality is like rain and dew to nourish their hearts and shape their personalities. However, in a complex and ever-changing social environment, how to keep girls innocent and upright has become an important issue for parents.
1. Insist on justice: empower your daughter.
In the face of challenges and injustices, we should educate our daughters to uphold justice. Just as Mr. Zhou's daughter reported cheating at the same table, although she was retaliated against by her classmates, her father's encouragement made her understand that it takes courage and wisdom to stand up for justice. We need to teach our daughters that justice requires not only courage, but also a proper way of dealing with problems. In this way, she can truly convince people with reason, rather than pressing people with force.
2. Care and considerate of others: cultivate a kind heart.
The quality of honesty and integrity is not only an external performance, but also an internal moral emotion. Cultivating a girl's concern and consideration for others from an early age is an important foundation for shaping her honesty and integrity. We should teach our daughters that caring for others means caring for themselves, and being considerate of others is being considerate of themselves. Through the practice of caring and considerate of others, girls will have a deeper understanding of the true meaning of honesty and integrity, and experience the joy of being an honest person.
One woman fondly recalled:
When I was young, my mother was always extremely strict with me, especially when it came to morality. Once, while having dinner, I suddenly realized that I had forgotten to return my classmate's math textbook. When my mother found out, she gently but firmly asked me to put down the bowl in my hand and go and return the textbook immediately. She told me earnestly: "Don't let your own mistakes affect the learning and progress of others. This is both respect for others and responsibility for oneself. ”
My mother's teachings are deeply imprinted in my heart. Since then, I have always kept my mother's instructions in mind and have worked hard to cultivate honesty and integrity. And this experience played a crucial role in the formation of this valuable quality in my future.
In addition, caring and considerate of others is also an important part of the quality of honesty and integrity. Sympathy and compassion for others is a noble moral emotion, which embodies the humanitarian spirit of saving people from danger, acting courageously in the face of righteousness, and helping others. However, in today's society, many only children are prone to develop selfish, assertive, and self-centered personality tendencies due to their living environment and lack of peers. Therefore, we need to work to change these adverse environmental factors and guide them to learn to care and be considerate of others.
3. The role of parents as role models.
Parents are the first educators of their daughters, and their actions have a profound impact on their daughters. As the saying goes, "Teaching by example is more important than teaching." "Parents should lead by example and demonstrate honesty and integrity. But the reality is that many parents fail to embody these qualities when dealing with problems. For example, when a daughter witnesses a moment when her parents lie, she may think that this is acceptable behavior and go astray.
The Soviet educator Makarenko once said: "Education is not only in the conversation you have with your daughter, but also in every moment of your life." This also means that every move of parents is invisibly influencing and educating their children. Song Qingling also emphasized the impact of adults' behavior on children, saying: "The words and deeds of adults are role models for children. Therefore, parents should be role models for their daughters to learn from, influencing her with their own good qualities to make her an honest, upright and noble person.
4. Deal with problems wisely.
When it is found that there is something wrong with their daughter, parents should calmly analyze it and understand the reasons for her dishonesty. For example, if a daughter steals money and lies that the salesperson didn't give change, parents should not immediately blame or punish her. Instead, they should give their daughter a chance to reflect on her actions and guide her to realize the seriousness of lying.
Parents should know their daughter and demand from her in accordance with her psychological level and personality. Excessive demands may stress the daughter, leading her to choose to lie to avoid possible punishment. Therefore, parents should pay attention to moderation in the education process to prevent their daughters from developing bad behaviors due to stress.
5. Conduct education on physiological and psychological characteristics.
There are many reasons why girls lie, and it can be related to their physical and psychological characteristics. Parents should be patient with lies caused by immaturity or unintentionality, and help their daughters improve their cognitive and memory skills. For girls who lie because of vanity, parents should first overcome their vanity and teach their daughters to earn respect by their own efforts and strength, and not by lies. Parents should be more concerned and fair to girls who lie with revenge, and cultivate a tolerant mind.
Girls' education should begin at an early age, because the sooner lying is corrected, the better. If you want to change a girl's outlook on life and the world after puberty, it will be too late. When parents suspect that a girl is lying, do not be impatient or harshly reprimanded, which can hurt their hearts. Instead, parents should communicate calmly with girls and help them recognize the seriousness of the problem. This is conducive to the healthy growth of girls.
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